Just a giggle

Censorship Sucks

As many of you may know, Blogger has recently sent out a message to it's bloggers with adult content:

You are receiving this message because you are the admin of a blog hosted on Blogger which is identified to have Adult content.
Please be advised that on June 30th 2013, we will be updating our Content Policy to strictly prohibit the monetization of Adult content on Blogger. After June 30th 2013, we will be enforcing this policy and will remove blogs which are adult in nature and are displaying advertisements to adult websites.
If your adult blog currently has advertisements which are adult in nature, you should remove them as soon as possible as to avoid any potential Terms of Service violation and/or content removals.
Sincerely, 
The Blogger Team

In response, I have removed my ads to my affiliate programs...as you can see.
If I was in an affiliate program with you, I am sorry that your ad is removed, please send your aggravated remarks to Blogger/Google.

I know that I have options.
I could make House Phryxus a website, sadly the domain name House Phryxus .com is owned by my ex-girlfriend and I seriously doubt she'd give it back to me since we haven't spoken in over a month.
Also, that is a huge endeavor that is not free.

Another option is to move to a kink-friendly blog source that allows ads. Theses are few and far between and require a huge overhaul of the blog. I'm not saying the house blog isn't worth it but I currently do not have the time nor does any other member of House. If you want to volunteer your time for this, let me know, we will work something out in floggings.

My response to all of this, for now, is to simply take down the ads and keep writing. I hope you will keep reading. This does change my content in that I will no longer be doing free reviews for companies that require there be an ad for their company on my blog to send me a toy or book. I understand where they are coming from but can sadly not comply.  Other than that, there will be no other content changes.

Hope that this all works out in the end...

xoxo
Lady Phryxus

How am I doing?

I've been asked a lot lately, "How are you doing?"
I thought I would take the opportunity to answer now that I've had some time to think about it and about what to say without stirring the cauldron of drama and naming names maliciously.

Being hurt by someone I was once friends with is never easy nor is it ever taken lightly. Being made to question my own partnerships, my own personal image as to whether or not I am sexually attractive, and having my self esteem crushed was even harder to manage. I felt that just as I was able to climb out of that pit I was tripped into another one by a friend who pretended to care - even to the point that on the same day she left me high and dry, she showed concern over my well-being since I had just received news of a family member dying. Looking back on it, it would have been kinder for her to be honest in not giving a damn about me.

Honesty is something to value. Maturity is even better. By maturity, I mean that if a person has a problem or complication they have the gumption to speak to the person they have a problem with and at least give them a heads up that there is indeed a problem. Maturity is not shown by pretending that everything is ok then running away from the situation first chance available.

I've not been entirely sure how to handle the situation as far as the community goes. I made those closest to me, my House, and a few other friends aware of the situation. I knew there would be questions and even backlash.
As we moved in with DeviousKitty (Rika Phryxus) and Smacks Her Ass, and as I focused on work at the local renaissance faire, I tried not to think too much about what had happened or what would be said.

Problems with people in a community, even one as small as ours, can be very difficult to manage.
Not only am I trying not to deal with turmoil from this situation but there are others that my family is trying to navigate around conscientiously.

When knowledge of a woman in the community who has an STI and a friend is now having to get tested because her ex contracted it while cheating on her comes up...it's hard to figure out how to handle that with the delicacy necessary. In the end, I can only make those in my House aware to ensure their health and safety and hope that the community practices the safety and health practices we preach so often online.

It is the same when a known rapist, who sadly, due to how our court system is managed, only received a misdemeanor, is part of the community. As a survivor of an unconvicted rapist, it makes me angry...nauseated that there is one in this community as well as the one I came from. Yet again, however, the most I can do is warn those closest then hope that the community will take care of themselves and each other.

Sadly, it doesn't seem that every community has the desire to care and take care. Many communities are ripped apart over rumors, petty differences, libel, break-ups in relationships, and in some cases out-right lies and disrespect. I've seen it so many times. It is very saddening to me. The Kink and BDSM community world-wide is so small...not to mention smaller factions such as age play and leather. To have them divided when they should stand together in solidarity is, again, sad.

Sir and I and House Phryxus are having fun running a few small events and coffees sporadically. We were asked, before we started, is there anyone we don't want at our events. We said, we don't want anyone that isn't safe (thus the vetting process of making sure that attendees are not convicted rapists or known for harming another person without consent). Outside of the safety precaution, and any age limitations that might be made due to the type of event (TNG groups are 18-39) then everyone is welcome.
I remarked, "Just because I don't like someone personally doesn't mean they cannot attend and hang out with friends. They can go to the events, I just won't be inviting them to my birthday party."

In the end though, to answer your question of How I'm Doing...
I'm ok. I have a husband who is doing his best to take care of me. I have a girlfriend who's chivalry and gallantry over the last 9 or so days would make any girl feel spoiled and happy. I have an amazing lil sis and her Daddy who are the best friends anyone could ask for. I have a support network of those closest to me in the community that I love dearly.
To all the members of House Phryxus
To the Fox Den
To Althena, ShibariPyro, RedWarrior
To Glacier's Edge Pack
Thank you all from the bottom of my heart

Lady Phryxus

Ye Olde Kinky Knights and Wild Wenches

Spending my weekends at the Three Barons' Renaissance Faire in Anchorage (June 1st-2nd, 8th-9th)

Last weekend I spent my time reading tarot cards, watching festivities, flirting with men (and a woman) in kilts, and even making an order for a formal chain for my beloved Wolfy. Her formal chaining is coming up!

Wolfy's armor freshly painted

This coming weekend is the Fairy Tale weekend. I'll be traipsing about and reading cards dressed as the adorably seductive Little Red Riding Hood while my knight in dark armor, Wolfy, will be wenching women of the Red Court and harking louder than any other person at the faire.

Also tomorrow is the Community Yard Sale and Lemonade 4 Love stand for Pride week! All the while, we are still preparing for Northern Exposure G4 the following weekend! So much excitement, I can't contain myself!

If you can't make it to the faire or live too far away to attend an in-person tarot reading with me...check out my other site - North Star Attunement and see my Shop for a list of available readings online.

Chained to Me

I finished up my work for the day to get online and see this picture from my beloved girlfriend, Sinister Wolfy, on FetLife with the caption:

If She Will Have Me

I immediately began blushing and was wonderfully flustered. She and I have been talking for a little while now about what it would mean for her to be chained. This is similar to a collared D/s relationship, however, since Sinister is a Wolf and has the same wildness as the animal, I cannot bear to have her turn into some house pet.

I'll have Wolfy help me write up a little about what it means to have a chained wolf later. For now, I simply wanted ot share my excitement.

If you couldn't guess, I said YES!

LELO Ogden 2 - review

LELO Oden 2

When my friend Alaskanson offered to let me try out the LELO Oden 2, I was as giddy as a school girl. Lelo makes some of the best toys in the industry and their innovations have been remarked upon by many of my fellow reviewers and friends.

I first saw this to at a BDSM coffee. A friend of mine had the controller and offered it to me to play with. I had no idea what the vibrator looked like but I could see the reactions on his girlfriend's face as a group of us proceeded to play table hockey with the remote control. She was certainly having a tortured yet pleasurable time.

Lelo Toy Shop describes the Oden 2 thus:

Oden™ 2 Design Edition is the upgraded version of the world’s most advanced couples’ ring, designed for men to wear when making love. Like its predecessor, Oden™ 2 features an industry-first SenseMotion™ remote control, allowing you to change vibrations with a tilt of your hand - now with a 3X greater wireless range and a 50% stronger motor for more intense sensations. The fully-waterproof and rechargeable design now also offers the option to play without remote and comes with a new additional closed-ring attachment of flexible silicone, to offer increased presence and stamina for him and intense pleasures for her.

I like the caption "For Men To Wear When Making Love"
and would like to add -
or masturbating or for your favorite dildo or...

Eden Fantasys praises the Oden 2:

The Lelo Oden 2 is a fantastic example of using new technology to bring pleasure and ease of use into the bedroom. The quality of the build, the effectiveness of the toy, and the intuitive controls all combine to make an excellently conceived and constructed toy for couples or individuals to use.

I have to agree with the excellence in the Oden 2 conception and construction.

It's like those boxes expensive jewelry comes it! So pretty!

The Toy Box

The Lelo Oden 2 comes in a beautiful box that holds all of its parts like strange jewelry. The toy comes with two attachments  the vibrator, wireless remote control, manual, lube, warranty, a tool to open the remote for battery change, and a pin with the Insignia logo.

The logo pin is adorable. It makes me think of a pin that one would wear when entering a secret club. I would imagine that it is worn to signal the fact that the wearer has the Oden 2 on them, and only those who have the same toy would recognize. It's like secret exhibitionism.

The sample of lube is the same as the Lelo personal moisturizer I reviewed previously, complete with pictures of my feet for those foot fetishists out there.

The Oden 2 warranty is for 1 year and also has a 10 year quality guarantee. Both it and the manual are little booklets that fit in a space under the toy box and are printed in several languages including English, German, Swedish, Spanish, and Russian. The manual, along with tips and instructions, is also illustrated for ease of use.

The entirety could be kept in the pretty box or be slipped into the included silky bag to keep dark and discreet in a purse or toy drawer.

Such a sleek look and velvety-soft!

The Oden 2

This toy is very basically a vibrating cock-ring. However, there is nothing basic about this high-tech sex gear! The vibrator and ring are made of body-safe silicone that is velvety-smooth to the touch.

Then there is the Sense Motion wireless remote control. The controller with the Oden 2 is what sets it apart from the original Oden.
Erotic Toy Town says of the Oden's remote control use:
No fumbling in the dark when you want a bit more power, just move your remote and enjoy the ride.

The sequel has 3x the wireless range than its predecessor  a great advancement for partners wanting to really tease their significant other.

The vibration alone is quiet, strong and can be felt through the ring marvelously!

Distance and Discretion

When we brought the Oden 2 home, I slide the vibrator in my panties and watched as Sir Phryxus shook the remote, walked around the room with it then promptly left the room, shut the door and tested the range of the wireless remote. He can use it in any room of the apartment and the signal is as strong as it is when he's sitting next to me.

The next test was to see how noticeable it would be if I wore it in public. While it was in my panties, pressed solidly against my clitoris and the remote safely in Sir's pocket, he and I headed to Anchorage to have coffee at Modern Dwellers with local kinksters.

We picked up my girlfriend, Wolfy, after five orgasms on the trip between Wasilla and Anchorage. I hugged her tightly and we let her guess why in the world I would look blushed and flustered. She could not hear the vibrator and if it wasn't for the sanguine look on my face, she would never have guessed I had a vibrator rumbling between my legs.

When Sir told Wolfy what was going on, they proceeded to play a game of catch with the remote that left me squirming. They at least took pity on me and allowed me to leave the vibrator and remote in the car during coffee. By that point I had delightfully suffered six orgasms and not sure how quiet I could be about a seventh.

Lelo Oden 2 on my big purple cock

For Couples' Use

The Oden 2 Insignia Uner Manual states:

Oden 2 is often most enjoyable with the vibrating pleasure point worn upwards to stmulate the clitoris when the woman is on top, or rotated downwards and facing the testicles for extra stimulation...Oden 2 also makes an amazing addition to foreplay.

The first base attachment is an open loop that is meant to be slid around the erect penis with the pleasure point (the vibrator) facing out.

The second base attachment is a closed ring that "offers greater constriction." The manual instructs to stretch the ring around the erect penis and wear above the scrotum or below. Upon closer examination of how far this ring stretches, there is no way possible for us to stretch the ring around both Sir's penis and scrotum without hurting him badly. His balls just won't fit that tiny ring.

We felt that the open ring would better fit an erect penis and scrotum and are still curious why that wasn't recommended instead.

During sex, the vibration is not only strong against the Oden 2 but can also be felt through the penis and into the vagina during penetration. This was a pleasant surprise that was easily replicated with use on a dildo.

Muwahahaha! I have the control!

Sir Phryxus Reviews

My husband, Sir Phryxus, used this toy with me enthusiastically. He too had played with the remote control of our friend's toy and had been talking about using this toy on me for some time now like a threat that we both were salivating over.

We've used cock-rings together before, and have had hit and miss on them as Sir has a decently sized penis with considerable girth. This one was also hit and miss.

While the open styled ring was comfortable enough for Sir to wear the Oden 2 while playing video games and just messing around on the computer, the closed ring was a very different story. The ring is supposed to be large enough to stretch over both penis and scrotum, however, while it was only on Sir's penis, it was tight enough to cut of circulation very quickly.

This toy as a closed cock ring is not for big boys!

He did enjoy the vibrational settings and felt very comfortable wearing it and positioning it during sex.

Is your cock in an open or closed relationship with the Oden 2?

The Oden 2 comes with other attachments available for separate order. These are the Lyla 2, which turns the Oden into a kegel exerciser with an extraction cord, and the Tiana 2 that allows the woman to wear the Oden during sex similarly to the We-Vibe.

Final Thoughts

I give the Oden 2 from Lelo a 4 out of 5 stars! The only negative aspects is that the closed ring isn't stretchy or comfortable enough for Sir to wear without cutting off circulation, however the open ring was comfortable and the toy so fun we couldn't count this one negative thing against them too strongly.

I love this toy as a wear-in-panties discreet vibrator to play with in a secretly exhibitionist sort of way!

Why Nerds Don't Get Laid 3

For those of you who are not in the know,

There are two other blog posts on here called

Why Nerds Don't Get Laid

and 

Another Reason Why Nerds Don't Get Laid

And...thanks to my new girlfriend, Sinister Wolfy, I have a third installment for you in this series of posts...

While having sex...my girlfriend, who is asthmatic and a lil worn after a long bout of sex, was gracing me with her talented tongue. Whilst between my legs, I could hear her hot breath against my thighs and sex and the sound...

well it was similar to a very famous character in cinema

Darth Vader Dildo from GespenstsFantasyGear

Well...once this realization hit me, I broke into a fit of giggles that couldn't be consoled or repressed. My poor Wolfy, bewildered, held me until they were done and I told her what had happened...and she also broke into a fit of giggles - I am so happy she didn't take offense. 

So now, Wolfy has taken to catching me off guard, holding her hands over her nose and mouth and mimicking the scene in which Vader says the line, "Luke, I am your father."

At least this post will let you in on our lil joke ^_^

Submissive Journal Prompt: Food Play

Submissive Journal Prompt: Food Play
Do you enjoy food play? What would you tell someone interested in the subject?

Food play is actually a common fetish I've run across. It has many levels and variations so that it easily fit into every person's lifestyle, even the muggles or vanilla's who are looking for a light hearted way to shake things up.

Food play can be as simple as teasing a man by sucking seductively on a lollipop or a popsicle. It can also be as elaborate as a human buffet - a person laid out, usually nude or with the slightest of coverings, with food placed all over them for others to eat off of; also a form of objectification. There is also the sort of food play that can involve the use of phallic shaped vegetables used for insertion.

I greatly enjoy food play. I love human buffets, as a buffet and as a person that eats the food off of the person. There is simply something carnal and delicious about combining food and sexuality. Looking into the eyes of my lover as I pick a strawberry off of their flesh and slide my tongue and teeth and lips over it before biting down as I look into their eyes...

Upcoming Events

Wow House Phryxus is a bunch of busy moths the next few weeks!

The 40 Below Munch

Tuesday, May 21, 2013 · 7:00 PM – 9:00 PM
Pizza Man
16410 Alaska 1, Eagle River, AK 99577

Come join the 40 Below community at our very first munch!
This munch event is NOT a Paid Munch so feel free to come in and have a slice with friends!
Bring a valid I.D. and please remember that 40 Below munches are for Alaskan Kinksters between the ages of 18 and 39
Don't know what 40 Below is? Check out our Group on FetLife

Fit To Be Tied Rope Workshop


Tuesday, May 28, 2013 · 7:00 PM – 9:00 PM

Mad Myrna's
530 E 5th Ave, Anchorage, AK 99501

Come out and explore with rope @
Mad Myrna's
in the ball room.
This is a 21+ event, bring a valid picture I.D. to be checked at the door.
This is also a free event! So grab a drink at the bar (even if its soda or water), leave a friendly tip and come and enjoy some rope bondage!
The workshop ends at 9pm but feel free to stick around for free pool and karaoke!
Feel free to bring books on rope and some rope to practice with.

Community Yard Sale


Saturday, June 08, 2013 ·10:00 AM – 5:00 PM

Hampstead Heath Complex
Follow the signs near Old Seward and Sylvan

This year, the Northern Exposure Community Yard Sale is teaming up with Lemonade for Love for the LGBT community.
We will have a stand alongside our yard sale so come out, rummage, and have a glass of refreshing lemonade.
All loot not sold during the yard sale will be donated!
Want to contribute some Loot?
Feel free to contact Lady Phryxus for drop off sites in Anchorage and Wasilla.
Look forward to see you all and rummaging with you!

Northern Exposure


Northern Exposure is a week long, kick ass kink flavored event full of education, parties, meals, shows and vendors! All hosted in a private venue for only 130 Alaskans. More than 30 classes and workshops are be taught by educators from all over North America.

Gather Friday morning for a catered registration brunch, wander our kinky vendor market, enjoy two night time parties, midnight snacks, brown bag lunches, and finish the weekend off with the Northern Exposure Wrap-up and Award Dinner Show, plus all of the classes in between!

Submissive Journal Prompt: Quiet or Playful Sub?

The Submissive Journal Prompt
Are you a quiet obedient submissive or is there an element of playful brattiness in your dynamic? How does your owner encourage or enhance who you are?

I am a quiet, sweet, timid little sub...ok, I can't even type that with a straight...it's right up there with saying I'm as innocent as the fresh fallen snow...sure, maybe with blood all over it!

I am loud and obnoxious and playful. Less so, maybe,with Sir Phryxus. However, even with him I've been known to come up behind him, tease a ticklish spot on him. I then enjoy a good chase around the apartment that ends up with me pinned down somewhere for tickles or a few swats on the bottom that leave me settled down and ready to beg for snuggles. 

I know of many Dom's that would see my playfulness as a sign of bad behavior but...

I relate it to our pet cat who is usually happy to snuggle and curl up and relax and do close to what he is told but will have his moments when he wants to run through the room like a mad-cat or bat at his owner's hand playfully but with claws. The owner doesn't give the cat up for bad behavior because of his playfulness but he might swat his paw or behind to get him to stop...worst case scenario, grab a water bottle.

For me, it's swats for playfulness and my water bottle could be corner-time or writing lines. 

I'm not sure if my playfulness and attitude are normal among submissives. I know that we seem to be a mixed bunch like a can of mixed nuts...I'd like to be a macadamia nut...they make good cookies...hmm

National Masturbation Month

While I'm a little late posting this, I have been thoroughly celebrating this month's theme

National Masturbation Month

Great Articles to Encourage Your Self- Pleasure

Erotic Toy Town - Why Have Sex with Sex Toys?

Sex Is: Masturbation: It is Perfectly Fine!

I <3 a="" female="" orgasm=""> is a fantastic book that explains a lot more than just where a clit is. 

Need Some Erotic Encouragement?

Pages of Pornography - a shameless pimp of my new erotica blog

Or try out one of the many books I've reviewed recently

I gave D is for Domination 5 stars!
4 of 5 stars for Daddy's Tails by Tasia Winters
and
5 of 5 stars for Nymph, a little bitty book with a lot of heat

Rock Candy Whippersnapper

Last weekend was full of House Phryxus fun!

Sir Phryxus and I were able to see the whole house excepting 1 friend of the house, Aconita, from Friday to Monday.
Friday, Sir Phryxus, myself and Sinister Wolfy attended the Bike Wash and Boot Blacking at the Raven that was fund raising for International Ms. Leather. Wolfy and I aided by holding up signs and shaking our whole shivering bodies on the street corner in the cold wind and drizzle.
Later that night, the three of us met up with SmacksHerAss and DeviousKitty at Mad Myrna's to start off a weekend of slumber parties!

During my weekend with Smacks and Kitty, I had the joys of being Kitty's big sister and relaxing with best friends. I was able to do some paddling with Kitty's new lollipop paddle from The Kink Shop. I was also able to have my first lesson in who to use a single tail.

Sir Phryxus trained me in how to use a flogger and his training methods are similar in using a single tail or whip. A lot of it is correction in stance and movement followed by repetition until muscle memory is built as well as hand-eye coordination for aim.

Sir says I have a natural talent for this sort of thing and look hot doing it, Wolfy and the rest of the house agree lol.
I do know that I really enjoy learning how to use toys and become a better Domme under Sir's instruction. I think it is his favorite part of being my Dom is in making me into a Top he is proud of.

The rest of the weekend was taken up with Althena's graduation party - Congrats Althena!!!! - and a yummy steak dinner with Angela Abraxis. I don't know if I could have asked for a better weekend with House Phryxus.

Submissive Journal Prompt: Obstacles and Challenges

The Submissive Guide Journal Prompt:
How do you handle obstacles or challenges? Do you find it is the most effective way to handle them in this way?

I thought this journal prompt was appropriate given the not-so-fabulous insanity going on in my life and in my community lately.
Rather than go into the drama, I will skip to how I'm dealing with it.

Advice From Amazing People

My friends, house members, mentors and people in the community I look up to have given me some great advice over the months and years I've known them.

Take a Bath - my little sister, Devious Kitty takes a lot of baths. She has admitted to spending 8 hours in the bath one day. Every time something stresses her out, she is in that bath water, playing with her rubber duck and processing. I decided to give this a try and a lot of thinking is done about my life, House Phryxus, my job, events and more in that small apartment bathtub.

Think before you hit the send button - this is a piece of advice given to International Ms. Leather 2013 Sarha Shaubach and she has been kind enough to spread the word. This piece advice and others like it have kept many a bad and harmfully-worded e-mail from being sent. The sister advice of think before you post is also a good one fore all bloggers...like me.

When offended by another person in the community, play devil's advocate (or find someone else who will). Did they do that maliciously or did they simply not know better because they were new, drinking, or unaware of the situation? I have a few friends who happily play my devil's advocate, and I do it a lot with my House Members when we're discussing a situation wherein someone outside the house has offended someone. Sometimes the situation can be remedied with a kind and informative conversation with the offending person. Sometimes people simply have to agree to disagree and step away from each other. However, the best route is to be factual, level headed, and upfront with integrity.

Things to Remember

Integrity - this is a word I've been reading and hearing a lot lately.
Webster defines integrity as:

 firm adherence to a code of especially moral or artistic values : incorruptibility
: an unimpaired condition : soundness
: the quality or state of being complete or undivided

Sarha gave me a great definition to integrity not long ago that I think everyone can understand and adhere to:

Integrity is making a decision of how you feel and how you will react to something and reacting the same way each time no matter what AND manning up to admit that you're reaction and feelings on it have changed when they do and why (or admitting when you were wrong the first time).
This means that when I say that I don't like people who cheat on their spouses, I can't say its ok for Billy-Joe because he's my best bud but still hold that it's not ok for Joe-Bob because I don't like him. If I do change my mind about cheating then I have to admit that I have changed my views and not lie that I've always believed this new way.

Let Your Freak Flag Fly!

Hi everyone!

As you might have read in my post about my Leather Vest, I am diving into Leather Culture and learning as I stumble and twirl through.
One of the things I've come across in the leather world is the idea of flagging or the Hankie Code.

Haruka (Sailor Uranus) flagging red ^_^

The first person I ever saw as flagging, or recognized was flagging, was IMsL2013 Sarha and I've since spoken to her and a few other flaggers about various colors, sides, the differences in the Kink community and the LGBT community, etc. Flag History is just as in-depth as any other part of the kink and leather world and it has taken a while for me to wrap my head around it.

What is Flagging? How does it Work?

Flagging, for me, is like a secret handshake. Only people who know the secret handshake will understand the hankie code.

From what I was told, flagging started back in the 1940's-ish, when men came back from the war. Bikers and biker gangs started to pick up and Leather was beginning to form. Since being gay wasn't acceptable, and even illegal in many places, men would signal that they were up for a good time, with another man, by flagging their keys a certain way. A Top or Dominant type would wear his keys out on the left side and a Bottom or Submissive type would wear his keys out on the right side. This is how men would know if someone was available to talk to or just fuck.

The Hankie Code may have actually started out as a joke, when someone put together a color/kink code and sent it out for a laugh...laugh was on him/her as it actually was adopted, adapted and used!

For more on Flag history, check out Diary of a Leatherman

Finding My Flag

When I started looking at the hankie code and reading more about flagging, I of course started to consider what I would flag in accordance to my kinks.

My first flag search was for Age Play. I looked at pink (its for dildo users) and teddy bear (for cuddlers) and even My Little Pony (for pony play), and after weeks of searching I was at a loss. A few friends told me I should just come up with my own flag. However, I just knew there had to be something out there - there were just too many age players in the community for there to be nothing on it.
The closest I came was Hunter Green hanky for Daddy/little boy...but I'm a little girl...

Finally, after weeks of searching and asking questions, I came upon a post by Sarha on Facebook where a friend, Mark, posted that a safety pin was the flag for the ABDL and Littles. I practically jumped for joy as I sent Mark a message thanking him for giving me a clue on my search. Mark did more than give me a clue though, he gave me the link of where he saw it -
ADISC Universal Badge for TB AB DL
A forum discussion for those who want to flag ABDL and Little but don't necessarily want something as loud and proud as the Age Play Pride Flag hanging out their back pocket.

I also plan to flag Fuchsia for spanking...on both sides depending on my mood ^_^

Another Way I Flag

Another way I flag, than on my leather vest or with a hanky out of the pocket, is with the barrette/ribbon code.
This is a code that Uncle Bear came up with on FetLife that Sir Phryxus and I have adopted and use frequently.
I won't paste the code here but I do ask if you're interested, please check it out at The Ribbon Code on fetlife.

Hanky Code Links

Flagging Opinicus Rampant has a really good color chart
Boot Dog has a VERY extensive list
Evil Monk has a code used by the Alaska Leather Tribe in their resources

My Leather Vest

I recently received my first piece of leather - a vest from International Ms. Leather 2013, Sarha Shaubach! She gave me this pretty piece the week before leaving for IMsL while I was helping her box up gay porn VHS's for the Shitty Sunday Show.

Just a little about me - I don't know a thing about Leather...in any sense of the word. I don't know how to care for it, I don't know a thing about what Leather Community is, the lifestyle, the culture, etc. This gift blew my mind and fired up my curiosity...

Lady Phryxus and SinisterWolfy
@ Celebration for IMsL2013 at The Raven

I have been asking a few members of the Leather Community I know about what Leather is and other questions. I will be sharing some of my epiphanies with you all as I come upon them.

My vest was cleaned, conditioned and thoroughly loved on by a new friend of mine, RedWarrior who was Pantheon of Leather Woman of the Year 2011, International Community Bootblack 2010, and SouthEast Community Bootblack 2010 at the Celebration for IMsL2013 at The Raven.

I have no pins or patches on my vest yet, though I am looking for an Age Play Pride patch right now. The vest was given to me with blue lacing but I wanted something a bit more...me, so I replaced them with pink ribbons printed with ballet slippers and hearts. I received lots of happy comments about the change, so I think I'll keep them for now.

I also wanted to ask you, my darling readers, what do you know about Leather that you would like to share? I'm looking for anything from knowledge of the Leather Culture to how and where to wear pins and patches on a vest.

xoxo
Lady Phryxus

Celebrating International Ms. Leather 2013

Last night, April 27th, House Phryxus went to The Raven in Anchorage and celebrated with other members of the community our very own Sarha Shaubach winning International Ms. Leather 2013.

Photo taken by employee of The Raven

My heart is black and blue for this woman! She will be traveling all over the US, Canada, and even Berlin and Amsterdam with her title and experiencing all this kinky world has to offer all while representing Alaska and Leather Women!

The celebration included gifts being made to Sarha for her actions and leather love as well as aid for her travel fund. Gifts included a pair of leather pants worn all over the US by our own community boot black, International Community Boot Black 2010, RedWarrior. Sarha was also awarded the Golgi Apparatus "Dirty Dick" Award from Sir Phryxus who received it last at the Shitty Sunday Show.
We also all enjoyed a celebratory cake, conversation and RedWarrior's boot blacking skills.

RedWarrior was the first to condition and polish up by very first leather vest last night. The experience was luxurious and sensual and smelled soooo fucking good!
She also polished up Sir Phryxus' boots...while he was wearing a kilt...traditionally ^_~
His traditional/regimental kilt wearing also resulted in a number of celebrants 'kilt-checking' him. He said at one point he felt like the center of a jerk-off circle. I am also proud to say that a previous Mr. Alaska Leather (2001) kilt-checked my husband...thoroughly! He asked Sir what I would say if I were to walk by and see this, and Sir, knowing me so well, said I would probably giggle and keep walking.

My little sister, Devious Kitty, won the raffle taking place and her reward was a leather-covered, wooden paddle that I was honored to have the first whack's on her bottom with. It was a lot of fun, to say the least.

SinisterWolfy...
not looking so Sinister

Sir Phryxus also was able to show off a little bit of rope-work on SinisterWolfy's arms last night, which was nice to watch just as Wolfy's corseting on PunkyPup and Kaia...pictures coming soon.

PunkyPup...being herself...

I was also happy to see SinisterWolfy's Glacier Pack out in force last night.

In all, I had a ton of fun and am so proud of my community for coming out and celebrating.

Black and Blue for You
Lady Phryxus

Zado Leather Ankle Cuffs - a review

Zado Leather Ankle Cuffs 

from Eden Fantasys 

I love that new leather smell! I was so excited to receive these beauties as they are the third set of cuffs I've reviewed and, after two bad reviews, I figured third time's a charm. I figured correctly as these were exactly what I wanted  in a pair of ankle cuffs.

Materials

The package (which was promptly eaten by my roommate's dog and thus not pictured) lists the following traits of the cuffs:

• Restricts free movement for extra excitement!
• Two ankle cuffs with a detachable metal chain with two karabiner hooks. 
• Cuffs made of black leather, softly padded inside. 
• Each approx. 6 cm wide, adjustable size with buckle between approx. 18 and 30 cm. 
• Metal chain including karabiner approx. 60 cm long.
• Material: split leather/metal.

About the materials, I will say that the leather is genuine and gorgeous to look and feel. It's not that bad-quality, thin crap that I often see at many adult novelty stores that frays and rips easily. This leather is thick and sturdy enough for aggressive use in bondage play.

The metal chain was also a surprise. When seeing metal and not getting an in-depth description of the type of metal, I usually assume cheap aluminum and/or nickle. Instead, the chain is made of the same sturdy material used to make high end dog leashes for large and aggressive dogs (found this out through a friend of mine who has a large, aggressive breed of dog). I was impressed and do not have many worries about wearing these cuffs out any time soon.

Wear and Tear

I received these cuffs the day before the Anchorage Fetish Ball at Mad Myrnas. What a perfect event to try them out!
The cuffs were comfortable enough to wear the whole evening walking around the club and standing to watch various play scenes. I showed the cuffs off to friends and fellow kinksters at the event and everyone who saw them was impressed and wanting to know where to purchase a set of their own.

I have since Fetish Ball also worn them to a couple of smaller meet-up events that leather-gear was welcome at. They received the same interest and praise there as at the large event.
I have also worn them to sleep in. Their comfort and easy wear allowed me to sleep in them all night with no problems and woke without discomfort or any scratches to the leather from movement in my sleep.

Cleaning and Care

Since these cuffs are genuine leather, they can be cared for, conditioned and cleaned like any other leather gear. My first recommendation is to have them cleaned by your local boot black at an event. If you've never had this done, it is an experience that is sensual, instructional, and beneficial to the leather gear.

If there is no bootblack near you, then you can clean and condition your leather just as you would leather boots. In many cases all that is necessary to clean leather is a damp cloth or a store bought leather cleaner. For a deeper cleaning a leather soap or saddle soap can be used. This is followed by polishing with a good leather polish/conditioner.

The metal pieces will be fine when cleaning the leather. Simply make sure they are dried and wiped-down completely before storing.

I give these cuffs a 5 out of 5! They're comfortable enough all night, sturdy enough for intense play, and beautiful to behold!

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Black Rose Mouth Bit

Black Rose Mouth Bit 

by Doc Johnson 

from The Adult Toy Shop

As my first toy from The Adult Toy Shop, I was very impressed by their online store and shipping process. The shipping was super fast and discreet (the mailer was labeled from Shipping Dept).

The Mouth Bit advertises comfort for long wear as well as beauty. I definitely got both of these things from this toy.

I wore the Mouth Bit to the Alaska Fetish Ball on March 30th after receiving it in the mail the morning of the event. It matched by purple and black outfit perfectly, looked beautiful with the purple silk ties and vinyl black roses, and could relax around my neck or fit comfortably in my mouth for the evening.

I have temporomandibular joint disorder or TMD/TMJ. This causes me to have difficulties in using gags that force my mouth open for an extended period of time as my jaw will lock up and become painful. Bit gags like the Black Rose Mouth Bit are perfect for me in that they don't force my mouth into an uncomfortable position but still perform the task of muffling speech.

As for the look of this Mouth Bit, I really love the style and the purple silk ribbons. They create the perfect comfort fit for the gag and I think that if the Bit had been made with leather or nylon straps, the comfort and beauty of this toy would have been lost.

The black rose detail of this Mouth Bit is adorable. I did have to work with the gag to place them properly as the plastic bit moves along the ribbon between the two roses.

As for the pthalates-free plastic bit, I was at first worried about the material not because of chemicals or comfort but because of durability. I have sharp little teeth. Sir has often whacked m for biting him because my teeth have been sharp enough to inflict marks and bring up blood. I was worried that my teeth would be able to tear the plastic but after biting on it hard and chewing on it, I found it to be both durable and without indentation from my front teeth.

After passing all the tests of aesthetics, comfort and durability, I give the Black Rose Mouth Bit a 5 out of 5 stars! I love this gag recommend it heartily.

Sinful Sunday

Me with my Easter Sunday toy - Eniko the Cow

Happy Easter ^_~

More Sinful Sunday posts HERE

Fetish Ball 2013

Alaska Fetish Ball 2013

Last night, March 30th, the members of House Phryxus attended Fetish Ball at Mad Myrna's in Anchorage. The ball was held for charity - the Four A's food bank in Anchorage received all of the proceeds for the event.

The event featured performers of various kink scenes including blood cupping, partial rope suspension, impact play, and needle play.

The energy at the event was high, the DJ played some fantastic music keeping dance music to one part of the club and some darker or Goth music to the other. Everyone I spoke to seemed to be having a blast and had at least one scene they couldn't stop talking about or marveling over.

I was surprised at how many people we knew turned out at the event. We haven't been to a large event in Anchorage for a while now and it was felt in that as soon as I walked through the door (after standing in line for almost an hour) I was enthusiastically glomped by several people in a row, which was welcome as I was freezing, haha.

Sir happily was able to play with our friend RubberDog. I love seeing RubberDog in a scene in general - no one makes noises like he does! I love watching Sir really get into the groove of a scene. Top space is something I have yet to experience but I don't mind living voyeuristically through my Dom for now.

My only 2 complaints on the whole evening:
The bartender does not know how to make an Orgasm (he gave me a long island ice tea, ew)
and I think it would have been nice if it was more clear that anyone receiving any sort of kink play had to sign a waiver. Sir and PunkyPup were playing in a designated scene with a friend's single tail to get a feel for it and one of the event workers stopped the scene just as Pup was slipping into sub-space and really messed with her mood and mindset for the rest of the night.

PunkyPup attended Fetish Ball in 2012 and said that this year had a much bigger turn out. We heard that the money raised would be a large sum for the food bank, which everyone in the community can be proud of.

Hung Deep Snake review

This particular toy was brought home by my girlfriend from Castle Boutique. I had been wanting to try a cock ring with my hubby so I was excited to receive this particular toy.

Issues Out of the Box
My only initial worry was, and I'm not sure if you can see it in this photo, but the anal "motor" is inside of the bottom of the anal beads and comes out via a hole in the cover. My worry is that in-use anally, the hole will pull back and scratch the inside of the anus. Also the motor is hard plastic and it comes out rather easily. So I don't think I will be trying these as they were meant to be used. Not brave enough to chance that particular issue.
The end of the beads could, however, be used to stimulate the outside of the anus if your butt cheeks are strong enough to hold it in place.

We tool the vibrator out of the anal beads and on bare skin it is incredibly strong. The only issue is it does need a sort of cover because the hard plastic has ridges, which I'm not sure why Hung would make it that way instead of a smooth mini bullet.

As for the promise to promote longer lasting erections, Sir Phryxus agrees. He found the cock ring to be very comfortable and grip the base of his penis with ease. He didn't have any issues putting it on or taking it off. The pressure of the ring kept him harder longer. He also found the vibration through the cock ring, thought muted, was enjoyable.

The material of the ring and beads is a silicone gel, which is oddly squishy and stays pretty cool to the touch when not using and cools down quickly after use. It stretches easily, which allows for use on any size penis and any size vibrator.

No Bullet...No Problem...
As for the powerful bullet, the one on the cock ring did not work. When pushing the bullet button it will vibrate but as soon as you let it go, it stops (it doesn't stay on). Thankfully, the cock ring stretches enough and we were able to use other vibrating bullets in it.

My New Favorite Toy - Sir Phryxus
As for my experience of the ring, it turned Sir into my new favorite sex toy. We've used vibrators during sex but I find that it draw my attention away from him when I have to hold the vibrator on my clit while we're having sex. Not to mention, holding onto a vibrator hinders the number of positions we can be in. With the cock ring, its hands free and marvelous.

Stars
I give the concept a 4 out of 5 stars
I give our actual toy 2 out of 5 stars because parts were broken and I didn't feel safe using part of it. Normally, issues like this would cause me to give only 1 star if any at all but I love the cock ring and the soft texture of the material.

When I first saw this toy, the first think I thought of was the oddly sexy liquid plumber commercial...

Fun Factory Share

The Fun Factory Share is a silicone, double-ended dildo that can be used without a harness. 

According to Eden Fantasys, the Share's unusual shape is made with customers, comfort and sexual bliss in mind. "A short, curved bulb is designed to be inserted into the vagina, while the curve below cradles the pubic bone and clitoral area. This enables the realistically shaped longer dildo to be maneuvered and thrust into a male or female partner."

Fun Factory USA lists the special features of the Share:

• comfortable handling
• good hold
• vaginal and anal stimulation
• easy to insert
• pleasures the active and passive partner simultaneously
• scooped base provides hold without reducing necessary freedom of movement 
• strong, natural shape 
• suitable for harnesses

Never would have thought I had penis envy...
but I certainly enjoy having one now that I got it

As a female using this for masturbation and for use with my girlfriend, I love the Share.

The silicone is firm yet flexible and has a soft, velvety texture. The only issue I found with the texture is that it picks up lint and cat hair easily so keeping clean it in a storage bag is necessary between uses.

The head of the dildo, though unassuming in its curve from the rest of the length, was large enough to stretch a both myself and my girlfriend. Once in though, it was a fantastic texture and sensation that we both enjoyed greatly.

As for the jelly-bean shape of the other end, it is quite large and not for the faint of heart...or for those who don't have strong kegel muscles. My girlfriend brags that I have fantastic kegel and thigh muscles, but even I had to work with the bulbed end before I was comfortable with it.
My recommendation is use lots of lube and go easy on yourself until you have it. Even then, make sure you can handle holding it comfortably before sharing with a partner.

Since the Share is silicone, a water-based lube is best used as silicone lube will damage the toy.

As for a masturbation toy, not only is the size of the dildo perfect for me, but the bulb on the end is a great handle. I think my fears of carpel-tunnel have been taken care of with this one, haha.

I have not used the Share anally on myself or on others, though I am sure using it while pegging would be satisfying for both partners involved. If you do use it anally, be sure to use a condom if you plan to use it vaginally after so as to prevent bacteria transfer. Other than that, a thorough cleaning and sanitizing should do the trick. Silicone is safe to be cleaned in the dishwasher, with soap (free of silicone ingredients) and water, or with a 10% solution of bleach. I usually clean my silicone toys in the dishwasher.

Share vs. Harness
Comparing the Share to a harness, I found the Share to be much easier to manipulate and use with another partner. I believe the ease of handling comes from how the Share sits once inserted. The way it cups the pubis easily, it sits in a way that a penis would naturally rise if the woman were indeed a man. A harness, however, takes more manipulation of the straps to bring it low enough, and even then, I have found that getting it to sit comfortably over the vagina is very difficult if impossible. Also, harnesses tend to chafe and cut into skin during longer play sessions.

5 Shimmering Stars
I give the Fun Factory Share 5 shimmering stars for its ability to give me a fantastic orgasm, the ease of use over that of a harness, and it comes in my favorite color - purple!

My Dominant Personality

The Submissive Guide Blog Hop

Submissive Challenge #16

Dominant Personalities in Submissives

On the Fence by Lucky Cole

This blog hop prompt is one that I feel very strongly about as a switch that both fully submits to my Dom and deeply loves to Dominate others submissives. I am a Switch and I embrace that term.

I haven't been out as a switch for very long. I felt that there was something wrong with me at first. Having both sub and Dom tendencies makes a girl feel a little crazy. I was also afraid that Sir wouldn't accept the Dominant side of me and force me to be submissive no matter what. I also was afraid that having Dom tendencies meant that I wasn't a sub - and I so dearly loved and still love being Sir's sub.

When I came out and told Sir that I think I'm a Switch, he just nodded, said he had an idea that it was so, and started training me. He said some of the best Dom's are Switches or have submitted in the past. He believes that to really understand how a sub feels in a scene, a Dom should have to experience everything they go through. Sir himself has been beaten by every tool and toy he uses on me or other subs. I have seen him submit to one woman and to see a strong man like him submit was the most erotic thing I have ever seen or experienced.

Sir has trained me well. We started slow and my first few scenes as a Dom he monitored me - making sure that both the submissve and myself were safe and comfortable - or as comfortable as anyone can be on a spanking bench being beat with a flogger.

My Dominant Personality as a Submissive
I am a sadist. I love watching a submissive react to pain - whether I'm inflicting it on them or someone else is.  Ironically, as a submissive, I do not handle pain well and prefer to trance out when being beat or hurt.
I also tend to be Dominant when I'm a little (age playing as an 8 year old) and submissive when I'm not regressed.
There is just something so delicious about being little, not worrying about adult problems, and focusing entirely on playing with my toys - especially the human toys.

As a submissive to Sir Phryxus I have found my balance. I submit to Him ONLY. No one else.
To all others, I prefer to be seen as a Dom.
I have met some conflict due to this.
Some old-school BDSM-ers prefer that I choose a side and quit riding the fence.
To that idea I like a t-shirt I saw not long ago - I'm Poly Bi and a Switch - I'm just greedy that way.
I have run into some Dom's who see me submit to Sir and arrogantly believe that they can Top me too. Not only is this wrong but it is also bad manners and I would not recommend acting this way towards anyone.

At one party a male Dom tried to top me without consent from me or Sir. He talked about taking me and torturing me anally. I turned on him with my most cute-yet-wicked smile, fondled by beaded Loliflog and told him sure, that I would love to do that...to him. I proceeded to inform him that I only submitted to one man and that I've broken stronger Doms that him.
Perhaps I should have been nicer but my anger caused the more sarcastic and tactless Dom in me to come out. That particular male Dom has never bothered me again.

I'm not sure if this post was what the members of Submissive Guide were looking for precisely but I still think its a great topic and I enjoyed writing about it from my perspective.