Submissive Journal Prompt: Food Play

Submissive Journal Prompt: Food Play
Do you enjoy food play? What would you tell someone interested in the subject?

Food play is actually a common fetish I've run across. It has many levels and variations so that it easily fit into every person's lifestyle, even the muggles or vanilla's who are looking for a light hearted way to shake things up.

Food play can be as simple as teasing a man by sucking seductively on a lollipop or a popsicle. It can also be as elaborate as a human buffet - a person laid out, usually nude or with the slightest of coverings, with food placed all over them for others to eat off of; also a form of objectification. There is also the sort of food play that can involve the use of phallic shaped vegetables used for insertion.

I greatly enjoy food play. I love human buffets, as a buffet and as a person that eats the food off of the person. There is simply something carnal and delicious about combining food and sexuality. Looking into the eyes of my lover as I pick a strawberry off of their flesh and slide my tongue and teeth and lips over it before biting down as I look into their eyes...

Let Your Freak Flag Fly!

Hi everyone!

As you might have read in my post about my Leather Vest, I am diving into Leather Culture and learning as I stumble and twirl through.
One of the things I've come across in the leather world is the idea of flagging or the Hankie Code.

Haruka (Sailor Uranus) flagging red ^_^

The first person I ever saw as flagging, or recognized was flagging, was IMsL2013 Sarha and I've since spoken to her and a few other flaggers about various colors, sides, the differences in the Kink community and the LGBT community, etc. Flag History is just as in-depth as any other part of the kink and leather world and it has taken a while for me to wrap my head around it.

What is Flagging? How does it Work?

Flagging, for me, is like a secret handshake. Only people who know the secret handshake will understand the hankie code.

From what I was told, flagging started back in the 1940's-ish, when men came back from the war. Bikers and biker gangs started to pick up and Leather was beginning to form. Since being gay wasn't acceptable, and even illegal in many places, men would signal that they were up for a good time, with another man, by flagging their keys a certain way. A Top or Dominant type would wear his keys out on the left side and a Bottom or Submissive type would wear his keys out on the right side. This is how men would know if someone was available to talk to or just fuck.

The Hankie Code may have actually started out as a joke, when someone put together a color/kink code and sent it out for a laugh...laugh was on him/her as it actually was adopted, adapted and used!

For more on Flag history, check out Diary of a Leatherman

Finding My Flag

When I started looking at the hankie code and reading more about flagging, I of course started to consider what I would flag in accordance to my kinks.

My first flag search was for Age Play. I looked at pink (its for dildo users) and teddy bear (for cuddlers) and even My Little Pony (for pony play), and after weeks of searching I was at a loss. A few friends told me I should just come up with my own flag. However, I just knew there had to be something out there - there were just too many age players in the community for there to be nothing on it.
The closest I came was Hunter Green hanky for Daddy/little boy...but I'm a little girl...

Finally, after weeks of searching and asking questions, I came upon a post by Sarha on Facebook where a friend, Mark, posted that a safety pin was the flag for the ABDL and Littles. I practically jumped for joy as I sent Mark a message thanking him for giving me a clue on my search. Mark did more than give me a clue though, he gave me the link of where he saw it -
ADISC Universal Badge for TB AB DL
A forum discussion for those who want to flag ABDL and Little but don't necessarily want something as loud and proud as the Age Play Pride Flag hanging out their back pocket.

I also plan to flag Fuchsia for spanking...on both sides depending on my mood ^_^

Another Way I Flag

Another way I flag, than on my leather vest or with a hanky out of the pocket, is with the barrette/ribbon code.
This is a code that Uncle Bear came up with on FetLife that Sir Phryxus and I have adopted and use frequently.
I won't paste the code here but I do ask if you're interested, please check it out at The Ribbon Code on fetlife.

Hanky Code Links

Flagging Opinicus Rampant has a really good color chart
Boot Dog has a VERY extensive list
Evil Monk has a code used by the Alaska Leather Tribe in their resources

Burlesque Boobies: A Review

Bijoux Burlesque Pasties from Babeland are a great way to add a spicy surprise under your clothes or to wear to a play party with sass. They stick without pulling skin or hair upon removal and can be re-worn!

Babeland describes these pasties as "Sophisticated and sexy satin Burlesque Pasties highlight your most stunning assets, leaving just enough to the imagination. Pair them with your favorite lingerie or showcase them all alone. The included pasty tape means you can comfortably re-use these glittery black pasties anytime. Packaged in an elegant gift box."

I received these beautiful danties in a discreet packed through UPS with the return address simply put as Mail Order. Excitedly, I opened the box and found yet another discreet package. The pasties are packed in a small black box with an image of the pasty on the from label and the item name in pretty script. I think that unless someone was looking close, the label would go easily unnoticed and the package could easily be packed away without worry of prying eyes if needed.

Both pasties are made of a hard card-board-like material covered in black glitter with a black satin bow. The back is also black and has a layer of sticky adhesive that adheres to skin easily. Over the sticky side is piece of plastic that prevents it from sticking to everything and prevents dust and hairs from blowing onto them.

I wore them for my husband and he thought they were adorable. Their comfort was enough that I could wear them for a long amount of time and would risk wearing them to a play party without worry that they would randomly fall off leaving me bare-nippled. I would not, however, be able to wear them under a thin garment without a heaver coat to sweater as the pasties do create a rather pointed look on breasts reminiscent of the 1940 and 50 Wonder Bra.

When I removed the pasties, there was no pulling on skin or hair and none of the adhesive was left on or around my nipple. I was very excited by this as I was a little worried it would hurt to remove and reminded of a past experience with black electrical tape for a play party (lets just say, those ladies who wear black Xs under fishnet tops on a regular basis at parties and clubs are brave souls).

In all I give these lovelies a 5 out of 5 for cuteness, wearability, and durability!

Sissification

While not a personal interest of mine, I do have some friends who are very interested in Sissification and wanted to do a blog post about it for them as well as for you, dear reader, should you be curious about this concept or maybe have never heard of it before.

A great article on the topic is by Chaos Fox, Feminization and Sissification on The Sexpert's Lounge. Chaos Fox explains the terms and the basic concepts of this fetish pretty thoroughly and without much confusion (I like that). I also like that the article explains that while the male participating in sissification is experimenting with gender roles, he is not necessarily switching or effecting his sexual orientation (translation: sissies aren't necessarily gay, they can be straight or bi as well).

From the Age Play point of view, The Big Little Podcast interviewed some Littles who participate in Sissification in Episode 51.
I personally would love to know if there are any Sissy Daddies or Uncles out there who become feminized for their Little's enjoyment.

When shopping for sissification clothes, which I love to do because their clothes are so over-the-top sometimes and I love that, I find that SissyKiss Boutique has a great selection!

BDSM Abuse Awareness

Many of you may have noticed that I have been passing around a link to an article on forums, chat rooms and more lately.
The article, I never called it rape: the truth about abuse in BDSM by Kitty Stryker, is featured on The Fetishistas online BDSM magazine. It's an open, up front telling of Kitty's experience of abuse in the fetish community and how so many times the community at large turns a blind eye to it even as they claim that BDSM is strongly against abuse and rape and is pro Safe, Sane and Consensual play only.

I have heard many Many MANY accounts of abuse in the scene. Everything from verbal abuse of submissives by a Dom who does not have any claim over them to ignoring a safeword to leaving a submissive after dropping them into sub-space to rape.
This issue has hit home in House Phryxus and we would like to do what we can to raise awareness.

So I'm posting this article everywhere I can think of.
Warning, it may be a trigger to some people who have suffered abuse as some of the tellings boarder descriptive. If you cannot read it because it could trigger, at least pass it on to others and let them know that the BDSM Community can no longer turn a blind eye to abuse.
This is not only to protect potential victims but to also keep the community clean of unnecessary stigma.

Formal Fetish Tea Service

So I'm working on a new project inspired to me by the little Tina who has come to me online to be my playmate.

I love Victorian roleplaying in the fetish world. I find it stimulating both mentally and erotically.
One thing I find most enjoyable is a formal tea.

I was thinking, how could a submissive or slave serve their Dom/me more fully during a formal tea?
I've posted this question on a few forums and chat rooms.

Now I did get a response on the FetLife Modern Victorian group from the Marquis de Valmont (who Sir and I greatly admire) and his response was:

"English High Tea....is English High Tea....no special protocols need be.

Proper service and protocols as such and FOR such service need not be altered in any way.

One must simply BE a good and well trained servant, have knowledge OF this daily ritual...and perform it."

-blushes- 

I suppose that it might be a bit precocious of me to try and tweak decades, nay a century of protocol but...I thought it would be fun and anyone who knows me knows how precocious I can be ^_^

Think Geek Panties

Omigosh!!!!
Think Geek has panties ^_^

And I want this specific pair soooo bad:

I feel that people who see me in my panties should know there is a chance I will be blogging about this experience...right?

Then there's these:

These are sooo AWESOME!

Kinky Jobs

With unemployment high and kinksters all over the US looking for jobs, I thought I would make a list of fetish jobs that kinksters might be interested in. Not included in this list is: stripping, porn industry, or prostitution but if this is legal in your area and of interest to you, have at it. ^_^

Pro-Dom:
Doms and Dommes might be interested in going pro. While there is a term for Dommes who go pro, Dominatrix, there doesn't seem to be a similar term for men who do so they are normally termed Pro-Dom or Professional Dominant. Doms (I will be using the masculine version from here on just to make things simpler, sorry if you are offended) can do this 2 ways: solo or as part of a dungeon.

Fox News Sexpert (Yea, I know, of all the places to find a sexpert right?) covered the reasons women would become a Dominatrix (and I think these reasons are similar for men as well) "“It offers the convenience of early or nightshift work; It enables cute women with bodies bigger than the Barbie-esque figure desired of strippers to work in the sex industry; It provides a woman with the opportunity to flog some of the bankers responsible for the current financial mess."

Of course, the pay check of an average of $200 an hour helps as well.
Many Doms supplement their income with public demonstrations, conference appearances, even by writing for magazinese, websites and or authoring their own books.

Pro-Doms in the field:
Alpha Malevolent
Master Kain
and soon Sir Phryxus? -giggles-

Pro Dommes in the field:
Elle ( a pro switch to be precise )
Mistress Milliscent

(I chose the 4 Doms here because they were the first ones I came across when searching that had websites that were still up and running...I know, great journalism huh? lol)

Pro-Sub:
Alternatively, submissives can also go pro and, in most cases, are paid better. This job is more dangerous than its Dom counterpart due to use of restraints by the customer or, in some cases, use of extreme bondage.
This field, as far as what I've seen, is mostly employed with women but I'm sure there is a calling for male subs.

Pro-subs in the field:
Check out the International Directory of Professional Submissives

Interwebs:
There are plenty of ways to be kinky online and make money if you have the abilities.

Host your own kinkster website. You can make money through advertisement, becoming an affiliate of adult stores, or reviewing products.

You can also blog...-looks around her own blog- and I know a lot of people make money on their blogs...and I could use the advice myself...hint hint.

Work for a kinkster website. Watch for job opening at your favorite site, social network, etc. I see them pop up all the time but sadly, I have no 1337 Sk1llz0rz...ehem.

And then there's always setting up a profile with some of the webcam and phone sex networks if you have the body and voice for that sort of thing.(I sound somewhat like a small child over the phone...so yea...not where I'm applying right now)

Toys:
Work at your local adult store. Not only do you get to work in a field you are knowledgeable in but you get a discount on all those kinky toys!

Work for a company that makes toys!
Bad-Dragon is always taking applications on their site even when they aren't hiring.

Make your own toys. If you have a hobby in wood, leather or metal work - put that hobby to work. Make leather harnesses and floggers, wooden racks and vintage dildos, chainmaile or Gorean collars.
Sites like Etsy allow all creators to sell their stuff without having to create your own online store...though that's not a bad idea either. Or, if you don't want to sell online, try setting up a table at your local munch, fetish club, goth club, etc.

Write:
If you're a writer, then write. Plenty of websites allow you to create your own e-book without the hassle of agents and begging at the doors of publishing companies. Write some of your own experiences...changing any names of course, or write out your fantasies.
If you don't want to make your own e-book, submit your writing to kinkster magazines, blogs, websites and more. Who knows, you might be the go-to boy or girl in the kinky scene of journalism or fiction!