Monday, December 31, 2012

10 New Years Resolutions for 2013

Happy New Years Everyone!
I hope everyone had a wonderful 2012, survived the various ends of the worlds, learned something new, and had a good time experimenting.


I thought I would share with everyone my Kinky New Years Resolutions. This was inspired by the New Years Resolutions from Em & and Lo.

1. Have more sex.
This sounds silly but in point of fact sex is super healthy! It helps to bond with my romantic partners, burns calories, creates good-mood chemicals in the brain, and it's fun! What's not to like?
If you're looking for ways to improve your sex life try Essence's 10 Sexy New Years Resolutions. There are some great tips in there.

2. Communicate.
I recently read Pagan Polyamory by Raven Kaldera (review coming soon) and I have learned a lot about communication for me and my partners I can't wait to put into play in 2013.
Communication is important for any relationship, no matter if it is is monogamous, D/s, or poly or a combination of any. This may not seem kinky or sexy, but make up sex really isn't as fun as truly enjoying your partners and not trying to kiss away the boo boos of your words.

3. Enjoy more toys.
More toy enjoyment means more reviews which means more blogging fun for 2013. I have a box of sex toys waiting on me and a few toys I've used that I've delayed in writing reviews on for to long. Be ready or 2013 to be riddled with dildos and vibrators, strap ons and floggers, lube and gags and blindfolds. I'm ready, are you?

4. Hand over the pen...er...keyboard.
That's right. I won't be the only one pouring over this blog. It is no longer my baby, though I will still be lead writer. My family has taken over and instead of being Mimi's BDSM Bloggery, this is now the home of House Phryxus. You will be hearing more from Sir Phryxus and other members of our house including PunkyPup, our latest and greatest addition.

5. Go to more events.
More munches, dungeons, parties, beatings, and more.
I want to immerse myself in the dark world of BDSM and really get the enjoyment out of watching and being among others of similar mindset. I love these events and I have got to start making time and budgeting for them.

6. Write an Ebook
I keep saying I'm going to and keep making notes and lists and more for them but keep leaving it all by the wayside and never getting it done. This year, I'm going to write an e-book for this blog. Keep an eye out for it.

7. Get my hands dirty
And before you go there...I mean by being more proactive in the BDSM and Poly community. Volunteer and help with events, see what I can to to get Erotication out there, and educate myself on more aspects of it.

8. More Interviews
I have a list...have had a list for all of 2012 of people to interview and articles to write. I just never got around to it. It's on my blogging priority list and I can't wait to introduce you to some of these fantastic people.

9. Read more
I have a looooong list of books I want to read in 2013. I plan on reviewing all of the ones I do read. There's just so much out there. Some of the books include Dark Moon Rising by Raven Kaldera, the rest of the Wolf Tales series by Kate Douglas, and who knows, maybe I'll trying and figure out the 50 Shades of Gray hype.

10. Experiment with other kinks and fetishes.
I love human buffets and flogging but what about dollification, burlesque dancing, and in-depth tantra? So much to try and only 365 days to do it in.

I hope your new years resolutions are fun and make them something you can stick to in 2013. Don't stress over weight, instead, try and sex diet or simply look into some plus size lingerie that really shows off your assets. There's no point in stressing about what you did or didn't do in 2012, live for the day and plan for the 'morrow with a smile.
For more about Resolutions and Goals, check out The Submissive Guide's Article about Goal Setting.

Wednesday, December 12, 2012

A Whisper in the Dark...

Hello my darling readers,

It has been a while - almost over 2 months, since I last posted.

Many of you follow me on Fetlife and know whats going on - Sir Phrxus, PunkyPup and I are taking a short break from the community to work on some personal stuff.

I'm going back to school and Pup and Daddy are working for a guy up here in AK that is starting a new restaurant and so that will be taking up much of their time.

HOWEVER

We will be back soon.
I am taking the time this holiday to revamp, rewrite, renew the blog and I am very excited about the changes we are making to it.

Yes WE

Not only will you still have the articles and reviews by yours truly but I will have a co-blogger and more pictures and what not.

There will be changes to the layout, style, affiliations, and more.
I'm hoping to make the blog easier to navigate and more pleasing to read and look at.

The changes and new posts will be up some time after the new year. No set date yet.

I hope you all are as excited as I am.

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LadyPhryxus

Tuesday, October 9, 2012

Cutting

Here's a lovely pic of a new play partner of ours Punky Pup after Daddy cut on her the night before

He used clean blades right of the wrapper for those of you who are picky about those sorts of things lol

*licks*

Saturday, September 22, 2012

Loving Good Clean Love



Good Clean Love Personal Lubricant in “Almost Naked” states on the bottle “Recommended by Medical Professionals” and I would also like to add highly recommended by this Sexpert.

This lube is 95% organic, certified by the NOP, Oregon Tilth, with an ingredient list that includes aloe juice, xanthum gum, citric acid, and natural flavor. When I first read it, I was reminded of the ingredients list on a pack of candy. A larger spot on the label proudly pronounces the makers of Good Clean Love as a member of the Organic TradeAssociation. The product is also 100% vegan, cruelty free and safe to use with latex and silicone toys. If that doesn’t steal your heart, the part that stole mine was the label stating “No Petrochemicals, No Parabens, No Glycerin.”

As a person with a list of allergies a mile long, and getting longer every year, I was thrilled to find Good Clean Love. I’ve tried lubricants in the past, when I first started having sex, and had a really bad scare when everything broke out on me after using some basic KY jelly. I went to the doctor who assured me I didn’t have a STI and asked if I had tried anything new. I told her and she proclaimed my allergy. I later learned I have this reaction with anything petroleum based and have shunned lube since. Nearly four years later, I gave Good Clean Love a try and am so happy I did.

The lube is thick and only a little sticky. The bottle says, “Naturally Moist, Sensuously Smooth, Long Lasting,” and I agree. The lube doesn’t leave a greasy or oil feel and washes off easily with water.

It doesn’t have much of a taste, just a weird texture to the mouth. I’ve not drank aloe juice alone before but I’m sure it tastes about the same. There are two other flavors of Good Clean Love lubricant - Lavender Rose and Cinnamon Vanilla.

I've used Good Clean Love during sex and with toys and found the lube to be great in both situations. I don’t normally need lube during intercourse but found the addition to make the experience luxurious and wonderfully wet. My husband also thought it was a good idea to use it and loved the fact that using lube allowed him to go for longer without making me uncomfortable.

With toys, I used the lube on Boxie the Fox and was surprised that I could take the knot quickly and easily, rather than minutes of thrusting it in different directions until it pressed its way through. A friend of mine I used Boxie and the lube on was blindfolded and didn’t believe she’d actually taken the knot without some insistence on my part after. The lube certainly did its job there.

I had originally bought Good Clean Love lube on a whim at the local super market after receiving the Kobe Tai anal adventure kit from EdenFantasys. The lube in it wasn’t something I trusted using but I knew if I was going to take a plug or beads anally I would need lube. I’d read about Good Clean Love in other reviews and decided to give it a try.

Using it anally was a strange experience for an anal virgin. Lube in an otherwise unused area is a feeling altogether alien but I soon learned to enjoy it as my husband applied it liberally to me and to the plug he used. The lube did a great job and I don’t plan on playing out back without it. 

In all, I give the lube 5 out of 5 stars! I highly recommend this product, even if you don't have allergy issues. 



Sunday, September 16, 2012

Kobe Tai Anal Adventure Review


The Kobe Tai beginner’s anal adventure kit appealed to me because I am just that, a beginner. My husband has wanted me to try anal since we started having sex four years ago. I’ve tried but I can never seem to relax enough to accommodate any more than the tip of his finger. When I saw the kit on EdenFantasys, I loved the variety…and that it was purple, my favorite color.

I brought the idea of reviewing the kit up to my husband, as I was afraid of receiving the toys for review and then being unable to review them at all...due to past experiences of saying I was ready and not being able to have anal sex mostly due to what my husband calls "spazzing out at the good part." He assuaged my fears and I requested the kit.

Like any other EdenFantasys' product, the kit came in a discretely marked box but I was surprised at how huge it was. All of the toys are in a very long, plastic display case with a Taiwanese model, Kobe Tai, in a skimpy outfit on the front. I would say the packaging of the product is not discreet at all, nor would it close completely once opened. So, we disposed of it rather promptly, opting for our toy bag to keep the toys in.



Plugged In

The kit includes 2 butt-plugs, one of which I believe is more of a stretcher as it is slender and widens as it nears the base instead of bulges large enough to remain inside. The stretcher is made of rubber and the other, which is what I would normally call a plug as it is bulging and then tapers for the rectal muscles to close on and hold, is soft and made of pthalate-free jelly.

I tried the jelly plug first and wished I had opted for the rubber stretcher instead and recommend this to other users. The stretcher is easier for a beginner to start out with, as it is a gradual stretching of the opening rather than an abrupt filling, then a sort of “pop” as the sphincter closes over the bulge.
Once in, the plugs create a sensation that isn’t unpleasant, if a little alien. Eventually, I seemed to get used to it and it felt pleasurable, if not orgasm-inducing. I give the plugs by themselves a 3 out of 5 stars, as the fun mostly lies in my husband making my body relax enough to take the plug and not in wearing the plug itself.

Probed

Also included is a set of jelly anal beads that are surprisingly firm. I had thought, since they were made of jelly, the beads would be squishy like the plug. Instead, they were more akin to a hard plastic. The whole length is also ridged with seams around the beads, which are not aesthetically pleasing but not big enough to feel when in play. Also, I have been informed by another sex toy reviewer that the seams on the beads are unsafe due to the fact that they can cause minuscule tears on the rectum and anus.
The beads graduate in size, and the last four are quite large. I don’t recommend using the last three, as they make for a better handle than an insertion point. Once inside, I did have a bit of a giggle at the way the beads looked hanging out. At first, we likened it to a stubby tail but the more I looked at it, the more it made me think of an improperly placed antenna and I made the comment that I felt like I was being probed, which made my husband and I both giggle. 
My husband and girlfriend also learned that the beads make a great small impact toy. This was almost certainly not what the beads were initially intended for but we had a lot of fun implementing them in some light spank play. In all I give the beads a 2 out of 5 stars as I have seen beads that are a single piece of silicone without ridges that collect any sort of bacterial-creating matter and no threat of tearing. 


I wanted to add that, since the beads are made of pthalate-free jelly like the aforementioned butt plug, they are considered not as chemically safe as silicone. This should be taken into account if you are sensitive to this sort of thing. Silicone would be a better alternative. 

Sensual Roller Coaster

My favorite part of the kit was the 6 inch metal vibrator and its 2 sleeves. Ironically, I don’t enjoy vibration anally, but for those who do, this vibe is something I would recommend…if you like power. This is no wimpy bullet, but a strong buzz that even when I inserted vaginally, I felt through my vaginal walls to my tailbone and buzzed against the bed. Thankfully, it has a gradual setting change so the speeds can be adjusted by a swivel at the base of the vibrator, which is not black as seen in the below picture but clear plastic that shows purple beneath.

The sleeves are made of rubber, according to the kit papers. I also prefer them vaginally as they, with the vibrator, have quite a thick girth and not a lot of give or squish. Their ridges and bumps are amazing and they, with the vibe, have become one of my favorite toys, sensation wise. The longer sleeve with the rounded bumps was rather difficult to slide on the vibrator, however, and could have been made to fit better. As it is, this sleeve needs lube. 

I recommend the vibrator and sleeves for double penetration (vagina and anal) with your man (or woman, if you enjoy strap on play). Having him behind with the sleeved vibrator in front is a sensual roller-coaster…especially when he has control of the vibrator speed.

The kit comes with Doc Johnson anal lube as well as the toys. However, I sadly could not review the lube in action. I will say that the no-mess bottle was a great idea. It’s a pump action with a small spout that only gives a dollop of lube at a time, which is all that is needed during most play. The lube is thick and sticky, silicone-based, and condom-safe. I recommend it for those of you who don’t have allergies…like me.

If you’re wondering, yes, I did use lube, and I recommend that anyone interested in anal do so whether you’re a beginner or an anal academic or practically a pornographic expert. More on the kind of lube I used in a later review.

For all of the toys involved, I recommend using a condom for easy clean up after anal sex and if you plan on using the toys both anally and vaginally as the materials are porous and not safe to use that way otherwise. The condom also helps with the anal beads and not getting bits of "yuck" along the bead seams. I also recommend obtaining a container for them, even if it's a simple freezer bag that is later tossed in a larger toy bag or chest. Various toy bags and toy boxes can also be found on EdenFantasys

In total, I give the entire kit a whopping 4 out of 5 stars. In all I had a fabulous time reviewing these toys and I plan to make at least one or two of them a regular addition to my masturbatory practice and sex life. 



Tuesday, August 14, 2012

B is for Beach


B is for Beach – a review

Malia Mallory’s ABC’s of Erotica continues with book two, B is for Beach.





If A is for Anal was a tempting treat, B is for Beach is a delicious appetizer.
Erica and Ben are meeting for the first time after many conversations, some not so vanilla, over the phone. Now, not only is her desire for seeing the face of her phone-lover fulfilled but Ben also satisfies Erica with completion of one of her fantasies – Sex on the Beach.

I love the scene where Erica and Ben undress each other. So many times I am annoyed by how authors write these sorts of scenes. They tend to either go into too much detail and take too long or they go to fast and you’re wondering how so-and-so suddenly doesn’t have pants on when, in the last sentence, they were buttoned and belted. Kudos to Mallory for getting this scene perfect! I especially like the way she writes Ben’s fondling Erica’s breasts underneath the “loosened cups” of her bra. For some reason, that small statement seemed so intimate to me along with his licking the line of her cleavage. –sighs-

My favorite part, however, isn’t teasing sentences but the concept of sand bondage! Packing someone in sand and telling them not to move is a kinky concept I never would have thought of. While I don’t enjoy the thought of sex in the sand (there are just too many places for sand to go and make things uncomfortable, in my opinion) this is tempting enough for at least some play before heading back to the hotel or bungalow.

Also, a little teaser for my happy readers, there is a little foot fetish scene in the beginning that involves sucking and soles and toes and breasts. If that doesn’t tempt you to grab this book, I don’t know what will.

I will say, for those grammar Nazis out there, you may find a few details in this book a little annoying as far as comma placement, sentence/paragraph structure and a few awkward sentences. However, if grammar isn’t your thing or you simply don’t care, please overlook this statement. ^_^


I give B is for Beach 4 happy hearts instead of 5.

Be sure not to miss the rest of the ABCs of Erotica series including C is for Cock Ring!



A is for Anal - a review


Malia Mallory is the author of the ABCs of Erotica series. The first book in the series is A is for Anal.




A is for Anal is about Grace, the prim and proper woman by day and naughty slut by night, and Michael who has the skill for bringing the kinkster out of his heroine. In the shower, while soaping and massaging Grace into complacency, Michael comes upon in a secret fetish of hers – Anal.

I was excited to get the first book of the ABCs of Erotica for free. From what I’ve read on Twitter and other websites, Mallory’s series is sure to be a feast for the erotic literature fan. A is for Anal was short, sweet and a seducing treat to lure the reader in and make them want more of this great writer.
I really enjoyed Mallory’s description without being overly vulgar. The little bit of dirty talk is so well used that it caused me to blush along with Grace.

My favorite part of the book is probably:
“He laughed. ‘How much do you want me?’ His voice vibrated with sensual promise. ‘Oh, so much, please don’t tease me.’ She rubbed herself against him. Her reserve was buried for the moment. All she could think about was his cock filling her.”
The ABCs of Erotica - A is for Anal (Kindle Locations 87-89). Malia Mallory. Kindle Edition.

The only thing I wasn’t a fan of is that there was only a teeny tiny glimpse of Grace and Michael’s back story. I’d like to have known more about how the hell they got together in that shower in the first place. I know A is supposed to be short, just a taste of what is to come, but curiosity is making me a lil pouty on that note. If you like to use your own imagination or like authors who don’t always tell all, then this may not be a downside for you.

I really hope you all enjoy A is for Anal as much as I did. The shower scene has inspired one of my own with Sir Phryxus.

I give the first installment of the ABCs of Erotica 4 out of 5 stars and look forward to the next 25 books!

Monday, August 13, 2012

Wet - A Review

I recently bought the erotic book Wet by Noir Le Chat from a fellow FetLifer and my dear friend Aconita read it first. Here is her review. I'll try not to let it color my judgement too much. 





I have always believed that the worst thing you can do when you first pick up a book is to judge it by its cover. So, naturally, when I picked up 'Wet', that is exactly what I did - I thought it was gonna be good.

'Wet', by Noir Le Chat, is a collection of erotic stories. On the back cover, it reads "Author Noir Le Chat has put together one nightcap for each night of the week with a use of metaphors that are intellectually erotic and undeniably unique."

I was rather intrigued by the wording of "intellectually erotic" and "undeniably unique", so I started to read. The first thing that I realized was that Noir Le Chat was not kidding about the use of metaphors. When I read that, I was thinking there would be maybe one or two

metaphors, perhaps between a teacher and a naughty student (Hee hee), but alas, I was incorrect. What she meant is that every story was going to be written like a metaphor.

For example, the first story. "The Conversation" is about how this woman is incredibly turned on by this man's conversation and voice. 'Alright,' I thought to myself, 'this could get good.'

It didn't.

Ms. Le Chat proceeds to use the conversation bit throughout the story - when the woman begins oral sex on the man, she is described as using her "persuasive words" and that as his flavor "spoke back" to her, it let her know that "he understood and enjoyed her conversation".

His penis is then described as a "hardened story". As she deep throats him,  Ms. Le Chat describes it as "wanting to get her full point across." And when he finally cums - that is written as her tongue being overflowed with wet words. As the characters further their

conversation, his penis is yet again described as a "hardened story", and the female character is placed against the wall as they prepare for "his next topic of discussion." And when they finally do start to have sex, his strokes are not actual strokes, but rather "new

sentences." Her climax is not an actual climax either, but rather an applause to show him how much she enjoyed his narrative.


And then there is the fourth story to consider, "The best advice I ever received."

OH DEAR SWEET GOD DID THIS STORY MAKE ME WANT TO VOMIT.

It starts out surprisingly normal. We are introduced to our female character, who is anxiously attempting to register for some form of placement test, and has contacted several school counselors concerning it. She finally gets in contact with one, meets with him,  and goes to

an orientation meeting about the test where he will be speaking. Surprise, surprise, this gentleman is not only described as being an "Adonis", but as having a "distinguished, sexy voice."

And then we get to the "erotic" part, aka the part that not only gave poor Aconita a headache but also made her want to puke. ):

As you have probably guessed by now, the particular metaphors used in this story are advice, counsel and orator. She enters his office wanting some further advice and counsel on speaking, which naturally leads them to getting it on.

He proceeds to go down on her, and that is where everything goes to hell.

His going down on her is described as a 'lecture' that truly deserved a 'standing ovation when all was said and done.'

And when she pulls down his pants and starts to perform oral on him, not only is his dick described as being 'advice and wisdom',  Ms. Le Chat writes the oral as 'I bent over swallowing every bit of his advice, hoping that he would be as pleased with my oral performance as I

was with his. He placed his hands on my head guiding me back and forth with the precise skillfulness and helped me choose just the right text. I wanted this to be a speech that he would never forget as I spoke into his microphone. The wet spoken flow I tasted coming from

his mic onto my tongue let me know he was proud of his student and that I was now schooling him.'

The advice continues, and they get ready to have intercourse. His penis is again described as advice, and every stroke as a lesson. Their climax is described as 'the ringing of the bell', 'passing the test' and 'class being let out', along with being 'his final point' and her being

an 'exceptional student.'


To make a long story short, this collection sucked. It is definitely unique, and the premise is interesting, but in my opinion, Ms. Le Chat takes the use of metaphors way too far. It is one thing to have a character use a metaphor a couple of times in the story, but to make

everything a metaphor is just too much. This collection might appeal to some people, but not me. I give 'Wet' a 1/5.

Until next time,

Aconita

Thursday, August 2, 2012

2012 Top Sex Blogger

Rori at Between the Sheets does a Top 100 Sex Blogger List every year and this year it would really be amazing to be nominated for that list!.

How do you do it?

Simply leave a comment on the Nomination Post or e-mail Rori at
rori at betweenmysheets dot com

Nominations close August 31st.

Once the 2012 list is given I will happily re-blog it here and more than happily celebrate with you, darling readers, if I'm on it.

So lets give it a try and show me some love, ok?

Wednesday, August 1, 2012

Domestic Submission

Ever wonder how you could use something as mundane as house cleaning and turn it into something exciting and kinky?

Check out my new article on SexIs Magazine from EdenFantasys - Domestic Submission!

Sunday, July 29, 2012

Book Review: Daddy's Tails by Tasia Winters



I downloaded and read books 2, 7, 9, 12, and 14 for free from Amazon so I must warn that this review of the series in incomplete.
All five books catalogue scenes Tasia, a submissive girl to her DaddyDom Master Victor, experiences under her Daddy’s orders and training including being shared by multiple men and women.

Book 2, Autumn's Fuck Toy (Daddy's Tails) thankfully gives a little bit of an idea of how Tasia got into the situation she is in with some background on her character. Tasia is very pretty, and she knows it, so it’s the duty of her Master, Victor, and Mistress, Amber, to teach her some humility…and they do their job very well.
Lots of humiliation and exhibitionism in this tale along with some light puppy play. The only thing that could have made the puppy play better would but a butt-plug with a puppy tail coming out from under her skirt. Otherwise, I like the cruelty of Amber and her friend Lydia juxtaposed with Victor’s paternal kindness.

Book 7, Three Wet Holes (Daddy's Tails)
 gives readers a scene of Tasia being fucked by three men in a place called an “aviary” filled with artificial fog and blue lights.
There are several fetishes going on here, which is common in the Daddy’s Tails stories, including foursome, gangbang, black man on white woman, piercings, the act of being pierced, partial suspension, caning, Female/female Domination, bukkaku, and more.

Book 9, Fisting Kira's Cunt (Daddy's Tails)
 is a short telling of a scene between characters Master Victor, Tasia and Kira. Tasia has just been made Mistress of Kira and performs one of Kira’s fantasies at Master Victor’s request during their very hot threesome – Kira wants to be fisted.
I will warn that this book does involve some sexual acts I know a few readers might not be comfortable with including a female rimming a male and, of course, fisting.
I do like that Master Victor states that the mind will say that a fist cannot fit in my body but the body will want it and allow it. He encourages Tasia to get Kira so worked up that even though she’s unsure her body will encourage her to continue the session. This is actually pretty realistic a statement and I’ve heard that some submissives take all night to stretch enough for a fist because they can’t wrap their head around it…no pun intended.

Book 12, A Plaything for Daddy (Daddy's Tails)
 is a great short look into the mind of Tasia as she revels in subspace and to be used by Master Victor. It is also the book where the climax begins to get intriguing. Tasia and her submissive, Kira are being sent to pleasure one of Master Victor’s business partners, Simon, who will trade time with them for a club in Tijuana. Problem is, Simon is not to be trusted. Autumn, a Mistress who has it out for Tasia, will also be there to look after Victor’s interest…but will she have her own interest in mind?
There’s a point where you can see a beam of hope for Tasia when she’s being used and abused by Mistress Lydia but, after a long and hot orgasm, she dozes off and is never able to hear the advice Lydia had offered to give her.

Book 14, Simon's Pierced Cockslave (Daddy's Tails)
, is probably one of the most romantic stories in the book. It speaks to a Damsel in Distress fetish I have. Tasia is willing to suffer any pain or pleasure Autumn and Simon have for her as long as they don’t hurt Kira, Tasia’s submissive who is gentle and sweet and only wants to please.
I like that this book explains the difference between a true Dominant and someone who simply wants to hurt people to get their jollies. A true Dominant wants their submissive to grow and learn from their sessions and would never harm them (for example, threatening to cane someone until they can no longer walk while fisting their ass when they’re certainly not ready for it is not a good example of good Domination).
I also like how Winters focuses on the concept of subspace; how when a submissive goes through as much as Tasia has gone through, all she can think about is more. It’s true that once you get a sub so far into subspace you could practically flay them open and they wouldn’t mind until they came out…it’s when they come out of it that the difference between hurt and harm is truly realized.

I loved the five books I downloaded and would like to read the entire series through if I ever get the chance to. Tasia Winters is a truly kinky writer with a great imagination and a talent for telling stories that make me wet.
The only real issue I had with the books was that there were quite a few grammatical mistakes and, in a few cases, it looked like whole words were left out or words didn’t seem to fit the sentence. I might suggest, if these ever go to paperback, to do an edit.

I give the series 4 out of 5 stars.

Friday, July 27, 2012

High Protocol


Hey readers. I had a discussion a little while ago with a Dominant on the use and misuse of High Protocol in the scene (both online and off) and wanted to share my thoughts on the subject.

First, there are a few definitions of High Protocol I want to address before I explain my stance.
High protocol is a formalized way of doing things in a D/s or M/s relationship that can dictate everything from how a submissive sits, stands or walks to what he/she says to whom and how they act in public or private. Some view High Protocol as a very strict standard of BDSM relationships (not to say that this is a bad thing at all). There are other, probably better, definitions available on the fabulous interwebs and I encourage you to look into them for more detail.

Within Reality gives a great example of protocol in her article here
and of High Protocol, she says, 

“In high, using the bath example, I would present my Master a towel by kneeling before him, head bowed, eyes lowered and demurely offer to dry him off. This level is serious and formal. My Master has taken the words/thoughts from the Estate - 'Complete obedience, without delay, or hesitation is required. All nonessential movement, speech, and thought are unacceptable. There has to be the awareness that every move, answer and behavior is being carefully examined and judged.'
Some other examples of the different levels of protocol are I am allowed to sit on furniture during low. In medium I have to ask permission. In high I am not allowed on furniture.
In low - I must say yes Sir or even my Master's given name in some cases. It is yes Master always - unless with people who are not aware of our lifestyle, in medium. And in high protocol it is ALWAYS yes Master.”

I do have some experience with High Protocol with a past, online Dominant. This has colored my judgment on it a little but I feel I’m now better able to look at other High Protocol relationships more clearly now that time has passed.

With my Past Dom, who I will call TEM for now, practiced a formalized standard of BDSM offline with other submissives and slaves and saw no issue with training and treating me in the same manner online and over the phone. This might not have been a problem if we’d had a deeper relationship beforehand, as another Dominant recently pointed out, but, because we did not, I developed some issues in the relationship in being able to adhere to his standards.
TEM did teach me a lot of things however, such as basic definitions and structures of BDSM, he began my training in orgasm control, and taught me that no one wanted a door mat for a submissive and that being a strong woman was very important in general.

That all being said…

Some Pros and Cons (or better said the use and misuse) of High Protocol



I wanted to address an issue that a lot of people I’ve spoken to have had with High Protocol – Dominants who insist on being addressed as Sir/Ma’am or Master/Mistress either by other Dominants or by subs/slaves that are not their own.
This is a MISUSE of High Protocol. Just like anything else in the scene, even Titles must be at the consent of those giving the Title to a Dominant. I personally have an issue giving the title Sir/Ma’am to anyone who has not yet earned my respect as a Dominant. At first I thought it was just the Switch in me but then I realized, no, it’s a respect issue. Just because someone says they’re a Dominant of the highest caliber doesn’t mean they are and I might just want a little proof of that statement.

Also, calling another Dominant Master or Mistress is an outright No. I only have one Master, and that is Sir Phryxus, and I have one Mistress and that is Mistress Fenreya. Period. No one else has earned my trust to earn these titles and, besides, Daddy would be awfully pissed off is he ever heard me refer to another Dom as Master.
In the same way, I get a little miffed when someone, not my Daddy’s sub, calls him Master. They haven’t earned the right to call him that just as he hasn’t earned their trust to call him that either. It’s like a little calling every male they see in the scene Daddy or crawling in their lap (I’ve had issues with this before and it wasn’t pretty).

Oh, if you do see me refer to someone who is not my Master or Mistress as Master so-and-so or Mistress whatever, it is usually due to the fact that it’s a screen name online. Sorry if that’s confusing.

-climbs off my soapbox for a minute-

One of the great things about the proper use of High Protocol is the lifestyle it creates for the participating D/s couple. I was told of a couple that the Master literally has a manual for every task he demands of his slave from how to lay out his clothes in the morning to proper coffee service.
Being able to perform these tasks in a way laid out by my Dom would be very enriching and even empowering. It not only lets the sub please their Dom but also allows them to stay within their boundaries that are clearly laid out – no guess work involved.

Another form of High Protocol is ritualizing some tasks. Tea service can be quite beautiful and some Masters like for their slaves to learn formal tea service as a way to improve themselves not only in knowledge but manners and grace.
One could even say a collaring ceremony is a ritual of High Protocol in that it can be formalized and the Master can hold a high standard for the slave in actions, vows and contract.

Ahem –back on soapbox-

Another misuse of High Protocol is when Dominants or even other submissives expect slaves/subs to automatically know how to act in a High Protocol situation.
I’ve yet to see this in life but I see it online a lot. Going into a room that demonstrates High Protocol actions and expecting a new person just entering to know these things is a little immature. I’ve been chewed out and seen others reprimanded harshly for simply being ignorant of the rules of conduct in that room towards other Dominants or even other subs.

An issue that isn’t necessarily High Protocol but just an issue I see a lot in the scene is Dominants who feel they are King/Queen of the hill and that all subs are lowly and should automatically show respect.
This also falls into consent.
I’ve been overlooked, told that my opinion doesn’t matter, even booted form chatroom or ignored in real play parties because I have a collar or identified as a submissive at the time.
I’ve spoken about this before…and probably will again because it’s a big issue with me.
Just because we are subs doesn’t mean we are nothing. I don’t give anyone permission, not even my own Daddy, to treat me like I am worthless because I identify as someone who is submissive to 1 or 2 people.
I’m still a person and so is every other submissive on the planet and as a person I still require at least a small form of respect.
Just as not all Dominants are wonderful, Kingly, majestic, always right, and perfect. Sometimes they too are in the wrong and both the Dominant and the Submissive should be heard in any issue in the community.

-sits on my soapbox thinking-
I’m sure there are other issues to address here but I can’t think of any right now.

I do want to direct you, my dear reader, to read a greatarticle about Gor lifestyle. I used to be prejudice against Goreans because of the few I’d met online were a little…well…mean. I really enjoyed and learned a lot from this article though and am more than willing to give Gor a second chance. You should too if you’ve had the same prejudices or experiences as I have had.


Much love,
Lady Phryxus

Thursday, July 26, 2012

New BDSM Lesson

Hello Readers,

For those of you who liked me reviews of the BDSM training classes for BDSM Training Academy I just received an e-mail from Mistress Sophia and Master Bishop that Bishop is now offering a new class - a Step-by-step BDSM lesson ^_^

The lesson is on When deciding on accepting a New Slave - as I am sure you can guess, this is for those training to be Dominant but is also a good read for slaves looking for new ways to add some protocol and experience to their relationship.

The lesson includes a list that Dominants should consider giving their subs/slaves to help set and keep boundaries:

  • Location and time they should arrive
  • What they should wear or not wear
  • A list of 7 to 10 items that they need to memorize
  • A list of positions that they need to know
  • A list of things that they need to keep in mind (to not look you in the eyes, for example)
  • A list of the ways they can address you during the session
  • A list of things that you may do to them during the session (keeping it mild for the first time)
I though the lesson and the examples given were great and plan on showing it to Daddy to see if he would be interested in incorporating it into some of our lessons and play. 



If you're interested in something like this or in any other classes from Master Bishop or in How to train Submissives or Slaves, please check out their site and sign up to be a member of Discover BDSM Slave Training. 


Saturday, July 21, 2012

Interview With Nic Buxom!


Nic Buxom is a 26 year old Pro-Switch and comic artist who "makes light of the inner workings of the dungeon and BDSM scene." She's been working at her local dungeon for 6 years now and creating her comic blog since 2009. She was gracious enough to take time out of her busy schedule to talk to me about her art, lifestyle and kink. I am a huge fan of her artwork (as I'm sure you've read before on a previous post) and enjoyed her candid responses and, as always, her great sense of humor. 



House Phryxus: In your comic, you show yourself as starting work as a Pro Domme because you were broke, a most noble reason. ^_^ However, what, besides money, has kept you in the business?

Nic: That I got involved in the Pro-Domme industry due only to money problems is half a joke. I WAS looking for a better paying job (retail is a monster) but I also desperately wanted to do something I enjoyed for a living. I was a lifestyle BDSM player before moving to pro so fetish and kink was something I did for pleasure, anyway. Why not get paid to do it? It's everyone's dream to do something they love for a living and working in a dungeon has been exactly that for me through the years. I'm very lucky to be able to say so.

HP: How did you come into the BDSM scene in the first place?

Nic: When I was in highschool I discovered I took pleasure in controlled pain. I had never heard of BDSM or anything of the like but I knew I was fascinated by bruises and liked the way they looked and felt, among other things. I had some friends who shared my interest and we began to explore practices that I now know fall into the BDSM and fetish realms, though at the time I was oblivious that there were people out there like me that shared these interests.
My best friend and I engaged in collar and leash play, puppy play, flogging, bondage and other common practices associated with BDSM. It wasn't until I got my first computer and gained access to the internet that my world was opened up and I realized there were societies full of people just like me. The web was a great tool for me to meet mentors and begin to explore other activities and play partners, as well as visiting my first dungeon!

HP:How did you train yourself as a Domme starting out or were you mentored?

Nic: When I began in the scene I was very submissive. I tried many activities from the bottom and learned from them. I thought I was going to be a submissive forever! I had no interest in topping. I was much more shy and introverted then and didn't get a rush from Domming like I did from being on the receiving end of pain and direction. Still, you can't help but learn in those situations. When I started as a pro I came in as a submissive. Both the Mistresses I worked with AND the clients helped me to learn and train to be an excellent Domme. I still love to switch, though I primarily Domme now. Some clients have been seeing me for years and have watched and helped me to develop. Many of these men gifted me some of my first tools that I now use extensively in topping, such as paddles and my extensive collection of TENS units (an electricity device I specialize with.) Absolutely the most helpful, though, has been the other women that I work with. The great thing about working in a dungeon, as opposed to working independently, is the wonderful family and society you grow with. We all teach and support each other and there are so many different talents to learn from, particularly ones very familiar with the pro-scene. It was essential to my personal growth (in and outside of my business) that I worked with such grand, eclectic ladies.

HP: As a Domme, do you own a slave or submissive outside of work?

Nic: I have never owned a personal slave or submissive because, to be honest, I have never had much time for it. I think it's a fallacy that a personal slave will make your life easier by handling everything for you. Sure, they can run errands and help out but there is still an exchange expected. Your slave cooks you dinner, you sit down and enjoy it and then you're expected to get back up and play with him/her and give her what she's in the relationship for. It's like any other "vanilla" relationship, everyone has to get something out of it. Slaves can be VERY demanding for your personal attentions and I just don't have time in my busy schedule to emotionally support another person. I know many of my clients consider themselves my personal slaves because they are very loyal but they still pay me for my time and so I still consider it business. Plus, I get to send them home afterwards with no hurt feelings and my time spent with them has a solid end point, agreed upon ahead of time. I never have to worry about them encroaching upon "me-time" or personal space. Some people like to engage in 24/7 BDSM relationships and that's great for the people it works for but I like to have my vanilla time when I'm not thinking about business and protocol.

HP: What advice would you give someone interested in becoming a ProDom or ProSub?

Nic: Firstly, this business is not for everyone. It sounds glamorous and easy on paper but I assure you it doesn't lend itself to everyone. If you want to work in the sex industry in any capacity you must, must, MUST be able to tell people "no." Sticking to your limits is so important for your comfort and self-worth and people are ALWAYS going to ask you to betray your morals, scruples and comfort zones. People who can't stand up for themselves and what they believe in will get taken advantage of and made miserable in an industry like this one.
Beyond that, don't bluff your way into the job. Alot of new Dommes want to preach about all the big names they've studied under and how great and amazing they are. Just stop. Get to know the tools for real. Study under a good mentor for real. And if and when you enter a dungeon or encounter other Dommes don't play "biggest Domme in the dungeon." What I mean is this isn't all about chest puffing and strutting. It's a mistake to think that Dominatrix's stalk about cutting people down with their words and whips. We're all real people outside of and beyond our work and should treat one another as such. When you get in the room with a client and he's paid for his time THEN you can throw on the persona! When you're just interacting with other workers and people outside of a scene then drop the attitude. And DON'T play with a tool you don't know. You'll hurt someone, and not in the fun way!
So, be strong-willed and respect yourself and your limits, really learn the tools and be courteous to others. If you put the time into this, like anything else, it will pay off and be a truly fun and rewarding business.

HP: In your comic you show the weirdest thing you’ve ever done at work, what was the most favorite scene you were ever paid to play in as a Dominatrix or submissive?

Nic: That's a toughie! I've had so many scenes that have tickled me in so many different ways. Some I enjoy more from a pleasurable aspect, some more out of humor, some out of ease.
If I had to pick one favorite I think it would be the night when a very familiar, regular client came in just before closing time. Everyone knew him and he was pretty indiscriminate about who he played with, or even what we did in session. He was a very submissive man who truly enjoyed seeing a Mistress take pleasure from him so he would do just about anything you wanted. (As a side note, many submissives claim to want to do whatever you want and then change their minds the moment you actually do what you like. It's typically bad form to leave a scene negotiation at "whatever you want" instead of being clear about limits and desires. Everyone has things they like and things they hate and it's important to communicate them for the safety and enjoyment of everyone involved.)
Since it was closing time there were only about 4 girls left, including the receptionist. Somehow it was arranged that the client would play with all 4 of us at once. We locked up and headed back to a playroom together. The scene consisted of us all dancing around to silly, bouncy songs on the radio, laughing and clapping while the client danced around with us, naked but for a sparkly tu-tu and headband. It barely felt like work and we all had a great time like it was one big party. The client took turns dancing with us while the rest watched, laughed and danced with one another. We did that until his credit card was declined.

HP: I love your comic, it’s so funny and light hearted. What got you into drawing your life as a Dominatrix?

Nic: I've always drawn. Even when I was a tiny child I drew on anything I could get my hands on. I was the kid who got in trouble for drawing in the margins of her homework (though my grades were still always exceptional.) I've also always loved comic books and have long been interested in writing/drawing one of my own. I decided that in order to practice and hone my skill I needed to start regularly drawing comics, even if they weren't any good to start. I didn't want to use any solid characters or ideas I had because I was too fanatical about character design and getting everything perfect so I knew I had to pick something I could play and tinker with, something light and easy to formulate content for, something I could draw swiftly. It was someone asking me to begin a blog about my Dominatrix work that gave me the idea... Why write a blog when I could illustrate a comic? I began NicBuxom purely as a pet-project! Something to practice. I thought I would move on when I was comfortable with the comic medium. Little did I know it would take off and become so dearly loved by many (including myself!)
NB has taken on a life of it's own. What started as purely humor and practice has become a platform for me to educate people about tolerance and other important issues, in a fun way. I write about my experiences as a Dominatrix as more than just education into the industry and lifestyle but with the underlying message that we're all people, we're all human, despite our differences. I hope I have alleviated people's fear of the unknown for more that just my lifestyle, but of the entire world around them.


HP: Many of your comics deal with accepting self image no matter weight, height and even hairiness. How have you come to be comfortable in your own skin and how does that help in your line of work as a Domme?

Nic: To be honest, starting working at my dungeon helped ALOT with my self-image and my development into the happy and confident woman I am today. I found that being surrounded by very outspoken, strong-willed, beautiful women of all shapes and sizes really helped to change my attitudes. They were the stepping stone and the booster I needed to realize that just because you don't fit the societal depictions of beauty DOES NOT mean you are not beautiful. And it doesn't hurt to have clients that worship you like a queen, either!
One absolutely needs to be confident to work in the sex industry. You have ALOT to deal with specifically regarding your body, personal space, comfort zones etc so you need to be able to say "no" and value yourself no matter what.

HP: On your blog, you are selling “The Things You Love Are Monstrous”, an art book created by yourself and MC Griffin. Do you ever plan to sell a book of comic compilations?


Nic: First, let me say that MC Griffin is an outstanding artist and that if you can look up more of his work, you should. He's been my friend a long time and we collaborate frequently, though "The Things You Love..." is our only attempt at publishing together.
As for a personal collection, I've long and hard considered it. I admit, I've become quite comfortable in the webcomic medium and that "The Things You Love..." was a way for me to test the waters on interest in my work in a more physical, tangible form. I don't feel that a hardcopy of NicBuxom would do well, considering all of the content is free online. Sure, I would offer never before seen sketches but I don't agree that that is incentive enough for a publication to be worth my time and money right now. Were I to publish, I think I would publish a collection of sketches or pin-up style unique characters. Something from me you couldn't see anywhere else and as a taste of the further extent of my work. For now, I have no intentions of doing a hardcopy publication but you never know what the future holds...

HP: Your blog and comics show your travels across the United Stated for personal and work reasons. Have you found that areas differ on how they view your line of work?

Nic: I have not worked very frequently outside of LA so don't take my impressions as an authority on any other region. The number one thing I have noted is that (surprisingly) many areas do much more "hardcore" play than we do here in LA. My dungeon is a legal business and so we abide by the laws of our city. We are particularly careful to abide by prostitution and obscenity laws in my place of business. When I travel I get asked for much more wild play and often things outside of my personal comfort zone. I've nothing against girls who engage in prostitution but I personally chose not to. I've been asked much more frequently in other states if I am a "full service" Dominatrix and the East coast has a higher interest in scat and other play involving bodily fluids and functions. Many of the women I've worked with who were first Mistresses in New York are shocked by the softer interests in LA. It's more my style out here but maybe it's just because this is the scene I've been raised in.
What I'm particularly surprised by in other areas is that people have no concept of what a Dominatrix is. I don't expect anyone to know the ins-and-outs of my business and I understand better than anyone that there are many misconceptions but for someone to have NO concept at all doesn't make sense to me. Our media consistently portrays BDSM activities. Look at any of your favorite pop artists music videos. There's bondage, spanking, latex, crops, ball-gags, puppy play and more. Not to mention our media, movies, radio etc. I expect someone to at least get "whips and chains" coming to mind when they hear Dominatrix but I've met many people who needed a full explanation and could hardly believe I wasn't weaving them a fairy tale!

HP: You’ve been to a few different adult conventions, which was your favorite? Why?

Nic: It used to be AdultCon. When I first started at these conventions they were busy, people were friendly and I'd prance about the whole day getting lots of attention and selling lots of product. There was also plenty to see and lots of fun goodie bags. Unfortunately, lately with the economy the way it is and other factors the old AdultCon scene has become abit tired and much smaller. Suddenly the crowd is different, too, and while I'm very tolerant by nature and practice I've still noticed the ratio of creeps has grown much higher. (I even had a small stalking scare...)

My new (and unexpected) favorite has been HempCon! I don't smoke marijuana and I've never even tried it so when I was first assigned a HempCon job I had a bad attitude about it. I thought I wouldn't be able to associate and make a connection with the people there and that there wouldn't be anything interesting for me to see. While it's true that the hordes of friendly offers to share a smoke are wasted upon me there, I was proven wrong about the people and convention itself. Vendor and attendee alike were overall very easy to get along with and very friendly. The people are what really make a good time at a convention but there's lots of amusing things to peruse, as well, even for a non-smoker like me.

HP: What can we expect from your comic and blog this year?

Nic: This year there are alot of personal changes in my life and so I know those will be reflected in the comic.
I'm planning to move into my own place (for the first time!) with my boyfriend and take on new business ventures. I'll likely be doing some independent Dominatrix work outside of my dungeon and I've also recently begun cam and phone work, something completely new to me. I expect these new venues to give me loads of new script ideas for NicBuxom and expand the realm of sex-industry that I've thus-far explored. I may even take on some vanilla work again (which I haven't done in over 6 years) and I know I'll have alot to say about that. I may have some retail complaints that more people can associate with! But worry not, the main focus will still be BDSM.
I hope to also have some more artwork up for sale as I'm beginning to expand onto painting wood cut-outs that I'll proudly be sharing on NicBuxom (and maybe even displaying at future conventions!)

HP: What plans do you have for your Dominatrix career in the year 2012?

Nic: This year has been hard (already.) The economy is at its worst in my lifetime and our industry is suffering for it. We dungeon girls are feeling it just like the rest of the world because our clients are feeling it. Even my regulars are cutting back on their visits this year. Because of this I'm expanding outside of my dungeon. I'm exploring more independent work, I'm doing some online fetish and photo sales, I'm taking phone and webcam sessions. I'm even looking into starting up a personal paysite with monthly memberships to host my photos and video and to make myself more available to fans who can't reach me in the dungeon. I'm excited to explore these new tools. I've seen many of my coworkers utilize them over the years but I've always stayed in the comfort zone of my dungeon. Now, however, times have forced me to branch out but I'm hoping it will be a good thing! I'll still be available at my dungeon, I'm not letting go of it that easily. This is place is too big a part of who I am and what I want out of my life.

Tuesday, July 17, 2012

How to Be a Kinky Scout

So, I'm working on a new project with Daddy.
I'm going to buy a Girl Scout sash
And I'm going to get patches for things I accomplish with him.

Kinky Merit Badges offers a great selection of patches and so far I think I've earned at least the Flogging, Shibari and Spanking badges.

I'll also be getting Leather, BDSM, Poly and Age Play Pride patches and patches for events and anything else Sir Phryxus decides I've earned a patch for.


I think this idea would be great for any sub, slave or age player. Feel free to steal ^_^

My Pink and Purple LoliFlog

A while back I posted that I had received a new flogger from toy creator MzBitch of Sensuous Bliss
Well, Sir Phryxus and I finally got a chance to use it July 14th at the local play party.

My pink and purple leather flogger, which I have dubbed the LoliFlog, received a lot of attention and admiration from the community Saturday night. The few who asked to check it out all said it looked pretty and painful. This, I can now testify, is the truth.



The flogger is made of leather (I'm assuming cow hide, because I wasn't informed otherwise) dyed pink and purple and knotted with silver plastic beads at the end of each of the 42 tails. It is not a cat-o-nine as many people called it at the party...a Cat-o-nine has NINE tails >.<

At the suspension rig and, later at the St. Andrew's Cross, Daddy warmed me up with our other 2 customer floggers from Toolworks Chicago, which I am used to, then brought out my LoliFlog. Even going easy, the silvery beads and knots at the end make sure to grab my attention. As the throws grew harder and heavier, I could feel each bead against my skin and, even though Daddy made sure not to mark me right away, I could feel heated welts from each sting form as the beating went on along my shoulders, back, hips, ass, thighs and even between my legs.
Warning: This toy is not for a beginner masochist.




Daddy's comment on using the flogger was "it seems to hold up well its pretty lite which I'm not use to so controlling how hard it hits is hard. All in all it was good, though it seemed like it would be nice and stingy." I agreed.

The only issue I had with the flogger was that it did have some glue flakes on the strands here and there that had to be pinched off and caused minor discoloration and there is a piece of leather on the handle that feels a little loosely glued but didn't seem to get any looser after use, so it should be fine.

All in all, the LoliFlog gets a 5 star rating from me. I can't wait to have it used on me again ^_^

Lady Phryxus

Monday, July 16, 2012

First Alaskan Play Party

Sir Phryxus and I went to our very first play party in Alaska this past Saturday! Woo hoo!

The event was hosted by the members of WhatWhereWhoAK on FetLife and they did a fantastic job not only in providing dungeon equipment and event space but also food and drinks and just plain being so damn nice!

Dungeon equipment spanned from leather padded kneeling stool and horse to a suspension rack and medical and massage tables and a St. Andrew's Cross. All kinds of toys were available for use from floggers to paddles to violet wands and wax.
Daddy and I stuck with our own toys for the most part but enjoyed trying out the suspension rack on stage, the St. Andrews Cross (which was sadly too big for me to stand against properly) and the horse.

Photo by KinkyPhotos4U

Not only were we having fun on the toys but a lot of other people were too. We got to perv out watching a full suspension, some fisting, wax play, caning, and CUPPING! - which was my favorite to watch and can't wait to give it a shot myself.
Met a bunch of people with like interests not only in rope work and shibari but also other age players and lots of other kitties like me ^_^

We had so much fun and I even had some rope marks after ^_^
I'm still giddy over how nice everyone was and how many people we met...and how many of them I can't remember their names for the life of me.

Can't wait till the next coffee meet up!

xoxo
Lady Phryxus

Friday, July 13, 2012

Photos - Lexington

Hey just sharing some photos of Sir and Me when we were romping around lexington, ky looking for a good time ^_~






Anchorage AK Munch


Went to the Anchorage Munch…well, it was actually a Coffee since it was held at Barnes & Noble. I was a little overwhelmed at first because it was easily three times or more bigger than the last munch we went to but I was told that this is the most that anyones seen show up in a long time and it could be due to a play party coming up and everyone wants to be remembered so they can go.

Despite the size, everyone was super nice. Both Sir and I felt very welcome and everyone we spoke to was very interesting.
The bulk of the time we spent sitting with one of the event coordinators who did a run down of the rules – which were very basic and common sense like don’t touch other peoples toys, no alcohol, don’t be a douche sort of things.
I’m actually really glad they make a point of meeting everyone before they allow them at a play party. It makes me feel a lot safer knowing that everyone has had some form of screening and knows the rules. I also like that there will be 3 photographers and they will take a picture if you ask – this prevents pictures of people who are more private from being leaked.

I still have to talk to the group leaders about blogging about the party or any upcoming events. I feel like I should have an immediate disclaimer – I am Soooo Blogging This! – but even I, in my excitement, am smart enough to know not to describe people or give out any names when it’s not wanted.

I’ll let you know how the play party goes…if I’m allowed ^_~
Xoxo
Mimi

Thursday, July 12, 2012

Submissive Guide Courses 5 star Review


My darling readers, today I’d like to share something really wonderful with you all.

I’ve been looking at a few websites that deal mainly in information about BDSM and offer courses and e-books on Dominance and Submission. There are a lot of sites on the subject and offering some basic definitions, references to classic books with Sadomasochistic themes, and testimonies from real submissives and slaves. However, the Submissive Guide and the classes written by lunaKM are the best resources I’ve come across and probably the best out there online for those interested in learning about or improving their submission.

Some of the resources the Submissive Guide include pdf files of Wants and Needs and of 20 Things You Can Do Today to Improve Your Submission; articles explaining and instructing how to create a Training Resume; and e-mailcourses on BDSM and Personal Submission. These are great files and classes and I’m happy that I can share them with you here.

I’ve found these resources beneficial to aiding me and Sir Phryxus in maintaining our D/s relationship even as we are now unable to act on it openly due to our living arrangements at the moment. It has also allowed me to better embrace my submission and prepare me for the time, in the near future, when I will be collared and our D/s relationship deepened.

I recommend these resources and the classes to any submissive – whether you’re new to the scene or simply looking to strengthen your personal submission or just learn a little more about yourself. Even if you don’t take the classes, I do recommend reading the short file of 20 Things You Can Do Today to Improve Your Submission that you can get by signing up for her newsletter for some great self-improvement ideas.

I hope you enjoy them and find them as beneficial as I do. 

xoxo
Lady Phryxus

BDSM Training Course Review


Mistress Sophia and Master Bishop of BDSM Training Academy offer a set of e-mail courses on Slave and Dominant training (for both male and female students). I’ve taken the courses on Domme training and of female slave training and have found both interesting.

The course covers the very basics from terminology to how to handle the initial denial of desire and taboo. They also cover safety and the concept of Safe, Sane and Consensual.

My favorite lesson was on the sitting, collaring and permissive positions for a slave to sit in. There are some great demonstrative pictures and the lesson in sitting is a great first lesson for a budding D/s relationship to practice and enforce.

Signing up for the course also signs you up for their newsletter in which Mistress Sophia offers advice, tips, and tutorials. I like the e-mail I received a little while ago in which Mistress Sophia answers a few questions sent to her. She has a candid and straight-forward way of giving advice and information that I enjoy.

I recommend these courses for Dominants and Submissives that are new to the scene or are wanting a review of the basics.

Xoxo
Lady Phryxus

Saturday, July 7, 2012

House Phryxus Updates

Hey all,

well just a couple of updates tonight as there's something sticky in my keyboard and the type-o fairy is making me frustrated writing this.

1 Sir Phryxus bought me a new slave's journal ^_^
I'll have pics up soon as I can get a new camera but its leather and has celtic knotwork embossed on the cover. Its beautiful.
We're also working on some new rules so I can still feel in sub-mode without all the outward show that I'm used to. Some of it will involve writing in my journal daily or something as simple as drinking 2 bottles of water a day for my health.

2 Thank you everyone who has messaged, commented, or e-mailed me about the FanFic issue.
As to the suggestions to move my story to adultfanfiction.net I probably will when I have more time online.
Thanks to those of you who have asked that I continue writing. I really appreciate your readership immensely.

xoxo
LadyPhryxus

Friday, June 29, 2012

Celebrity Littles?

On the Big Little Podcast group on FetLife there is a discussion about what celebrities we think just might be littles...
My vote is Drew Barrymore because of her photoshoot for Glamour


Soo cute - you just wanna eat her up!