Sunday, March 31, 2013

Sinful Sunday

Me with my Easter Sunday toy - Eniko the Cow

Happy Easter ^_~

More Sinful Sunday posts HERE

Fetish Ball 2013

Alaska Fetish Ball 2013

Last night, March 30th, the members of House Phryxus attended Fetish Ball at Mad Myrna's in Anchorage. The ball was held for charity - the Four A's food bank in Anchorage received all of the proceeds for the event.

The event featured performers of various kink scenes including blood cupping, partial rope suspension, impact play, and needle play.

The energy at the event was high, the DJ played some fantastic music keeping dance music to one part of the club and some darker or Goth music to the other. Everyone I spoke to seemed to be having a blast and had at least one scene they couldn't stop talking about or marveling over.

I was surprised at how many people we knew turned out at the event. We haven't been to a large event in Anchorage for a while now and it was felt in that as soon as I walked through the door (after standing in line for almost an hour) I was enthusiastically glomped by several people in a row, which was welcome as I was freezing, haha.

Sir happily was able to play with our friend RubberDog. I love seeing RubberDog in a scene in general - no one makes noises like he does! I love watching Sir really get into the groove of a scene. Top space is something I have yet to experience but I don't mind living voyeuristically through my Dom for now.

My only 2 complaints on the whole evening:
The bartender does not know how to make an Orgasm (he gave me a long island ice tea, ew)
and I think it would have been nice if it was more clear that anyone receiving any sort of kink play had to sign a waiver. Sir and PunkyPup were playing in a designated scene with a friend's single tail to get a feel for it and one of the event workers stopped the scene just as Pup was slipping into sub-space and really messed with her mood and mindset for the rest of the night.

PunkyPup attended Fetish Ball in 2012 and said that this year had a much bigger turn out. We heard that the money raised would be a large sum for the food bank, which everyone in the community can be proud of.

Happy Easter

Thursday, March 28, 2013

Hung Deep Snake review

This particular toy was brought home by my girlfriend from Castle Boutique. I had been wanting to try a cock ring with my hubby so I was excited to receive this particular toy.

Issues Out of the Box
My only initial worry was, and I'm not sure if you can see it in this photo, but the anal "motor" is inside of the bottom of the anal beads and comes out via a hole in the cover. My worry is that in-use anally, the hole will pull back and scratch the inside of the anus. Also the motor is hard plastic and it comes out rather easily. So I don't think I will be trying these as they were meant to be used. Not brave enough to chance that particular issue.
The end of the beads could, however, be used to stimulate the outside of the anus if your butt cheeks are strong enough to hold it in place.
We tool the vibrator out of the anal beads and on bare skin it is incredibly strong. The only issue is it does need a sort of cover because the hard plastic has ridges, which I'm not sure why Hung would make it that way instead of a smooth mini bullet.
As for the promise to promote longer lasting erections, Sir Phryxus agrees. He found the cock ring to be very comfortable and grip the base of his penis with ease. He didn't have any issues putting it on or taking it off. The pressure of the ring kept him harder longer. He also found the vibration through the cock ring, thought muted, was enjoyable.

The material of the ring and beads is a silicone gel, which is oddly squishy and stays pretty cool to the touch when not using and cools down quickly after use. It stretches easily, which allows for use on any size penis and any size vibrator.

No Bullet...No Problem...
As for the powerful bullet, the one on the cock ring did not work. When pushing the bullet button it will vibrate but as soon as you let it go, it stops (it doesn't stay on). Thankfully, the cock ring stretches enough and we were able to use other vibrating bullets in it.

My New Favorite Toy - Sir Phryxus
As for my experience of the ring, it turned Sir into my new favorite sex toy. We've used vibrators during sex but I find that it draw my attention away from him when I have to hold the vibrator on my clit while we're having sex. Not to mention, holding onto a vibrator hinders the number of positions we can be in. With the cock ring, its hands free and marvelous.

I give the concept a 4 out of 5 stars
I give our actual toy 2 out of 5 stars because parts were broken and I didn't feel safe using part of it. Normally, issues like this would cause me to give only 1 star if any at all but I love the cock ring and the soft texture of the material.

When I first saw this toy, the first think I thought of was the oddly sexy liquid plumber commercial...

Wednesday, March 27, 2013

Fun Factory Share

The Fun Factory Share is a silicone, double-ended dildo that can be used without a harness. 
According to Eden Fantasys, the Share's unusual shape is made with customers, comfort and sexual bliss in mind. "A short, curved bulb is designed to be inserted into the vagina, while the curve below cradles the pubic bone and clitoral area. This enables the realistically shaped longer dildo to be maneuvered and thrust into a male or female partner."

Fun Factory USA lists the special features of the Share:
  • comfortable handling
  • good hold
  • vaginal and anal stimulation
  • easy to insert
  • pleasures the active and passive partner simultaneously
  • scooped base provides hold without reducing necessary freedom of movement 
  • strong, natural shape 
  • suitable for harnesses

Never would have thought I had penis envy...
but I certainly enjoy having one now that I got it
As a female using this for masturbation and for use with my girlfriend, I love the Share.

The silicone is firm yet flexible and has a soft, velvety texture. The only issue I found with the texture is that it picks up lint and cat hair easily so keeping clean it in a storage bag is necessary between uses.

The head of the dildo, though unassuming in its curve from the rest of the length, was large enough to stretch a both myself and my girlfriend. Once in though, it was a fantastic texture and sensation that we both enjoyed greatly.

As for the jelly-bean shape of the other end, it is quite large and not for the faint of heart...or for those who don't have strong kegel muscles. My girlfriend brags that I have fantastic kegel and thigh muscles, but even I had to work with the bulbed end before I was comfortable with it.
My recommendation is use lots of lube and go easy on yourself until you have it. Even then, make sure you can handle holding it comfortably before sharing with a partner.
Since the Share is silicone, a water-based lube is best used as silicone lube will damage the toy.

As for a masturbation toy, not only is the size of the dildo perfect for me, but the bulb on the end is a great handle. I think my fears of carpel-tunnel have been taken care of with this one, haha.

I have not used the Share anally on myself or on others, though I am sure using it while pegging would be satisfying for both partners involved. If you do use it anally, be sure to use a condom if you plan to use it vaginally after so as to prevent bacteria transfer. Other than that, a thorough cleaning and sanitizing should do the trick. Silicone is safe to be cleaned in the dishwasher, with soap (free of silicone ingredients) and water, or with a 10% solution of bleach. I usually clean my silicone toys in the dishwasher.

Share vs. Harness
Comparing the Share to a harness, I found the Share to be much easier to manipulate and use with another partner. I believe the ease of handling comes from how the Share sits once inserted. The way it cups the pubis easily, it sits in a way that a penis would naturally rise if the woman were indeed a man. A harness, however, takes more manipulation of the straps to bring it low enough, and even then, I have found that getting it to sit comfortably over the vagina is very difficult if impossible. Also, harnesses tend to chafe and cut into skin during longer play sessions.

5 Shimmering Stars
I give the Fun Factory Share 5 shimmering stars for its ability to give me a fantastic orgasm, the ease of use over that of a harness, and it comes in my favorite color - purple!

Tuesday, March 26, 2013

Marriage Equality

Because the first step to Polyamorous Marriage is Equal Rights of Marriage for Same-Sex Marriage, because I can't be married to both Sir and my girlfriend PunkyPup until it is legal to Marry PunkyPup in general.

Kink of the Week: Spanking

March 25-31
2011 birthday Spankings for Lady Phryxus

Do you love it? Do you hate it? Never tried it?
I love being spanked...sometimes. I must say that when I'm being spanked for disciplinary reasons, I do not like being spanked at all - but that is due to the tone of the spanking setting, I don't like making my DaddyDom angry.

What do you like/hate/love about it?
When I do enjoy being spanked, its usually when I'm in Little's mode as an age player. Spankings put me in the mind set that I'm not an adult anymore and that my Daddy is perfectly capable of pulling me over his knees and laying his hand on my bottom.
I also love how these spankings for play usually proceed and turn into some kinkier play as Daddy explores my hot bottom and further.

Are you the spanker or the spankee or do you switch?
Even though I am a Switch I don't give spankings. I actually prefer to withhold physical touch from most of my submissives excepting certain situations.
So I am the spankee.

Do you have a favorite way to be spanked (or to spank) – or a least favorite? 
Over the knee (OTK)

Favorite implement/least favorite? Are implements even allowed in your style of spanking?
I have a paddle I am woodburning the words Daddy's Kitten into. Other than that Daddy uses a crop or his bare hand.

Is it a sexy/sensual/sexual activity for you? A playful one? Or is it punishment? (Or all of the above?)
All of the above in certain situations.
Sir Phryxus spanks me playfully at random times around the house or in public.
He spanks me during foreplay and during sex.
He spanks me as a disciplinary action.
Its a big part of our play.

If you want to see more spanking fun be sure to check out the Kink of the Week
and the Spank Her 4 Real blog for spanking videos and photos.

D is for Domination - a review

D is for Domination
The ABCs of Erotica
An Erotic Short Story
by Malia Mallory

Mistress Ven is a female Domme who pushes all the boundaries. As she tests the loyalty of her submissive, she exerts her will with both pleasure and pain. As he begs for more, Mistress Ven takes her sweet time with extensive anal play and nipple clamps to heighten the experience. Not permitted to climax until commanded by Ven, her sub is perched on the precipice of release. The wait is both excruciating and exquisite.

D is for Domination is a plethora of pleasures and fetishes from Femdom, male submission, impact play, nipple torture, cock-and-ball torture (CBT), and shoe fetish.

The BDSM and Domination was believable and intense. Again, Mallory doesn't spend too much time with burdening description and the reader can really sink into the story and lose themselves in the dialogue and steamy plot.
As a short story, it is 18 pages of erotic joy. I was left hot and bothered and craving more! It really turned on the Domme inside of me and gave me some great ideas for play and my own fantsies.

I found D is for Domination to be Delicious! I am in love with Mistress Ven and hope that Mallory writes about this seductive Domme and her wonderfully responsive subbie again soon.
I give the story 5 out of 5 stars!

D is for Domination is now available on Amazon Kindle

For more Malia Mallory reviews on my blog - check out A is for Anal and B is for Beach.

Monday, March 25, 2013

His Need, Her Desire: Book Review

His Need, Her Desire by Malia Mallory

Tabitha Quinn didn't come to Hawaii to be spanked. But when vacationing businessman Marcus Granger saves her from drowning, they begin an affair that moves from the beach to the bedroom and straight into an experience Tabitha's never had before: dark-haired, blue-eyed Marcus is a dominant, and spanking is just the beginning. The sex is intense, the emotion even more so, until they both must decide if this is a holiday fling or the real thing. ~ Blurb from Mallory's website

One of the things I love about Mallory’s writing is that it is never burdened by over-descriptive settings and needless detail. The focus is on the characters, the dialogue, the plot and the steamy romance just as it should be.
I also enjoy how ambiguous Mallory is when it comes to describing her main female character. This allows the reader to place herself into the story without feeling like it is a stretch of the imagination.

My favorite part is the approach to BDSM in a safe and respectful manner.
I can see the idea intrigues you. It's what I referred to earlier when I said I like to be in charge in the bedroom. I wasn't kidding. In truth, though, it's dictated by you, your limits, and your comfort zone. I don't go outside that. I wouldn't want to. If it isn't good for you, it isn't good for me. Does that make it sound less … daunting?”

As Tabitha thought about it, she realized it wasn't Marcus that she didn't trust. It was herself. Tabitha didn't know if she could give up control. She was afraid of losing herself. She sensed it would be either the most liberating thing she had ever done or the biggest mistake she would ever make.

I know that there will be a little backlash about this story with the buzz buzz about 50 Shades going around. Middle-class girl meets rich kinkster isn't a new concept (and it wasn't knew before the shades series either, might I add) but the concept is popular for a reason - what woman into kink doesn't fantasize about some handsome sugar-daddy who can tease and torment her in all the right ways?

Mallory has said that some readers thought the BDSM relationship in this story was unbelievable and unrealistic. I'm not sure what part they were pointing out as being unrealistic (except for Tabitha's lack of training and yet uncanny ability to pick up what to do as a sub so quickly - which I'm sure was done for sake of skipping over boring parts). I would like to say that most D/s or M/s relationships are as varied as any other relationship, including their kinky play.

The only complaint I have about Mallory’s work is that there are some grammar errors, type-os, and awkward sentence structure in places. I can look past a lot of this but if you’re a grammar-nazi, you might have some issues staying focused. Her work could be truly amazing with some light editing.

I could also say that the story was almost too short for me...but there is a sequel to quench my thirst for more of Tabitha and Marcus.

I give this book 4 out of 5 stars. I cannot wait to read more of her work.

His Need, Her Desire is available on Amazon

His Desire, Her Surrender, the Sequel to His Need, Her Desire is also available on Amazon Kindle

For more Malia Mallory reviews on my blog - check out A is for Anal and B is for Beach

My Dominant Personality

Submissive Challenge #16

On the Fence by Lucky Cole
This blog hop prompt is one that I feel very strongly about as a switch that both fully submits to my Dom and deeply loves to Dominate others submissives. I am a Switch and I embrace that term.

I haven't been out as a switch for very long. I felt that there was something wrong with me at first. Having both sub and Dom tendencies makes a girl feel a little crazy. I was also afraid that Sir wouldn't accept the Dominant side of me and force me to be submissive no matter what. I also was afraid that having Dom tendencies meant that I wasn't a sub - and I so dearly loved and still love being Sir's sub.

When I came out and told Sir that I think I'm a Switch, he just nodded, said he had an idea that it was so, and started training me. He said some of the best Dom's are Switches or have submitted in the past. He believes that to really understand how a sub feels in a scene, a Dom should have to experience everything they go through. Sir himself has been beaten by every tool and toy he uses on me or other subs. I have seen him submit to one woman and to see a strong man like him submit was the most erotic thing I have ever seen or experienced.

Sir has trained me well. We started slow and my first few scenes as a Dom he monitored me - making sure that both the submissve and myself were safe and comfortable - or as comfortable as anyone can be on a spanking bench being beat with a flogger.

My Dominant Personality as a Submissive
I am a sadist. I love watching a submissive react to pain - whether I'm inflicting it on them or someone else is.  Ironically, as a submissive, I do not handle pain well and prefer to trance out when being beat or hurt.
I also tend to be Dominant when I'm a little (age playing as an 8 year old) and submissive when I'm not regressed.
There is just something so delicious about being little, not worrying about adult problems, and focusing entirely on playing with my toys - especially the human toys.

As a submissive to Sir Phryxus I have found my balance. I submit to Him ONLY. No one else.
To all others, I prefer to be seen as a Dom.
I have met some conflict due to this.
Some old-school BDSM-ers prefer that I choose a side and quit riding the fence.
To that idea I like a t-shirt I saw not long ago - I'm Poly Bi and a Switch - I'm just greedy that way.
I have run into some Dom's who see me submit to Sir and arrogantly believe that they can Top me too. Not only is this wrong but it is also bad manners and I would not recommend acting this way towards anyone.

At one party a male Dom tried to top me without consent from me or Sir. He talked about taking me and torturing me anally. I turned on him with my most cute-yet-wicked smile, fondled by beaded Loliflog and told him sure, that I would love to do him. I proceeded to inform him that I only submitted to one man and that I've broken stronger Doms that him.
Perhaps I should have been nicer but my anger caused the more sarcastic and tactless Dom in me to come out. That particular male Dom has never bothered me again.

I'm not sure if this post was what the members of Submissive Guide were looking for precisely but I still think its a great topic and I enjoyed writing about it from my perspective.

Saturday, March 23, 2013

I was Roofied

Sorry, no witty title today. Plain and Simple, I was roofied.

Last night I went to the Silver Fox Inn with my husband and girlfriend to celebrate the number of nice things that have happened to us this month including my girlfriend passing her Roller Derby assessments from Fresh Meat into Rookie and Sir's getting a job that will pay for him to go to school for certification.
I don't remember much but from what I was told we were having a great time, and I had made the statement that I was having a lot of fun because we hadn't been out on a date in so long.

I hadn't been drinking. I did order a Guiness but after a couple of sips I decided on a ginger ale instead with my burger. I didn't think about my ginger ale being behind me while I watched Sir and Pup play pool. It wasn't an alcoholic drink so I figured naively that no one would bother it.
I was wrong.

I started to feel queasy and a little dizzy. At first I wondered if I had somehow eaten something I was allergic to. Then my tongue began to go numb and I felt out-of-it and tired.
It was the blunt honesty that I have with Sir that saved me. I told him how I felt and he recognized the signs immediately from the days he was a bouncer and an EMT.

The rest of this telling is what was relayed to me as I do not remember.
Once in the car Damon checked my eyes and the dilation was off. He then instructed Pup to keep me awake while he ran to the store and then took us home. He carried me up the 3 flights of stairs to our apartment, changed my clothes, and kept to the arduous task of keeping me awake for the next few hours to ensure that I wouldn't fall asleep and either 1. choke on my own vomit or 2. not be able to wake up...

What I do remember after that is waking up on the couch to Sir and Pup watching over me and telling them how tired I was. I honestly thought I had suffered some sort of allergic reaction to food or food poisoning and taken a benadryl and just didn't remember passing out on the couch. I asked Pup how work went and later learned that me asking and continuing a conversation we'd had 6 hours prior scared her badly.

I told Sir how tired I was and after he made me drink some water, he took me to bed. It wasn't until he woke me up because he was holding me so tight it was uncomfortable that I knew something was very wrong.
Finally he told me I had been roofied and I slowly pieced my night back together.
Sir blamed himself. He said as my husband and Dom he should have been more aware of my safety.
I blamed myself, I should have been smart enough to watch my drink.
My dear friend Leeanne pointed out the falacy in these beliefs. Its the fault of asshole who drugged me. I shouldn't HAVE to watch my drink. I shouldn't HAVE to be worried about being drugged.

I thought as a married woman, with people she was openly and obviously in a relationship with, and not drinking alcohol, I was safe. I wasn't
Sir explained that he had seen it happen many times that some people put drugs in other people's drinks because they think its funny to watch them afterward - not necessarily to date rape them.

I share this story because its scary to know someone is out there doing this to another woman...or man.

The following is an article for teens, but it pertains to all people. I wasn't date-raped but I do sympathize with one of the girls interviewed, Jada, who was drinking water and thought because it wasn't an alcoholic beverage there was no need to watch it.
What it Feels Like to be Drugged

My plea to all people going out - be careful. Watch your drinks, watch your friends - be clear of the warning signs of someone who has been drugged. That's what kept me from getting hurt is the care and awareness of my loved ones.

P.s. Roofie jokes are no longer funny

Thursday, March 21, 2013

New Toys and their Anime counterparts

Eden Fantasys has two new glass toys that reminded me of two of my favorite anime characters -

In case you haven't picked up what anime characters I'm talking about yet, it is Sailor Jupiter and Sailor Neptune from the anime series Sailor Moon. 
I felt Neptune was particularly appropriate not only in color but also in that it was an anal plug...seeing as her girlfriend is Sailor Uranus...sorry, very punny, I know. 

Wednesday, March 20, 2013

My First Toy Buy - Advice

I've been seeing a lot of posts online asking about what people would recommend for a first toy, what your favorite toy is, what is the best toy for a couple, etc.
So many questions and when asked together, I liked to focus in on the first part - the toys recommended for a first time sex toy buyer.

What Gets You Off?
One of the biggest questions when it comes to buying a toy is being honest with yourself about what really gets you off? What makes you orgasm?
Do you prefer clitoral stimulation? Does it take a light touch or do you need it rough? Does it take a long time or are you quick to come?
Do you need penetration? Do you prefer girth or length or do you need both? Does too much texture make you uncomfortable or do you like ridges?
Are you in tune with your body?
Do you get uncomfortable when considering keeping something overtly sexual in the house or is kinky, raunchy, yumminess ok with you?

If you need penetration but the idea of keeping something that looks like a disembodied dick laying around the bedroom makes you squirm you might want to look at something a little more inconspicuous.
Same with if you need clitoral stimulation but it only takes a light brush to get you going, a really strong vibrator might not be the most comfortable.

I know it's a lot to think about, however, the answers to these questions will help you dial into what toy is most likely to make your body sing.

Once you figure out what gets you off, safety and quality are the next things to consider.
There are certain materials that are safer than others. The safest materials include silicone, stainless steel, polymer coated wood, pthalate-free plastic, etc. The grading of safety for sex toys is based on a few properties of the material. These properties including chemicals in the material, how porous it is, and sterility or ability to clean it thoroughly and easily.

Chemicals such as pthalates in materials are good to avoid as they are potential carcinogens, which can cause cancer. When it comes to chemicals like this, it is better safe than sorry.
How porous the material is effects whether or not it can be thoroughly cleaned and if the material will hold onto bacteria. Porous materials include rubber, fabric like leather and nylon, and similar. Non-porous materials include glass, stainless steel, and
Sterilizing toys is important, especially if the toy is going to be shared between people or if it will be used both vaginally and anally. Some toys, like jelly, cannot be sterilized without being destroyed so if it is going to shared a condom must be used.

Quality isn't just about the toys but also about the store they are purchased from.
Some stores are known for their quality not only in product but also in pricing, shipping and customer care.
Online stores that are easy to navigate, offer information about the toys and brands that they sell, have customer reviews available, and quickly answer customer questions by e-mail or chat are good indicators of a great store. Also, if you are living with others or simply don't want the mail man knowing what you've ordered, avoiding stores that do not offer discrete shipping is a must.
The same goes for offline stores in their customer care and appearance. If the store feels sleazy  the workers are obviously uncared or if they simply seem to have no knowledge at all of the products, it will create an uncomfortable shopping environment that doesn't appeal to the customer's needs.

Buying your first toy in the age of technology can be a little overwhelming, especially if you're not technologically inclined. My best advice is when perusing the world of toys with buttons, cords or cordless, accessories and more is the KISS method, Keep It Simple Stupid.
When choosing a first toy, it might be best to go with a simple bullet rather than a Hitachi wand all of its attachables.  Too much going on with a toy can make for a frustrating time when all you want to do is relax and get off.

After figuring out what sort of toy you are after and have found options made with body-safe materials, money comes into play. Toys can range from $5 to $200 depending on brand, material, technology, and more.
When starting out, I would recommend keeping your budget low until you have pinpointed what you like then splurging for a larger buy when you've become a more seasoned sex toy buyer.

My Recommendations
Disclaimer for Recommendations:
The following toys are almost exclusively chosen for women. This is because I am a woman and have very little knowledge of men's toys and what would be recommended at the beginning stages of buying toys.
Also, if a toy you are looking at is not on this list, that does not mean that it is not a good buy for you. All choices for this recommendation are colored greatly by my own opinion.
The following toys are from Eden Fantasys, a store that offers discreet shipping, great customer service, and in-depth reviews.

The Sweet Candy Cane is a smooth, glass dildo with a fun shape that will not look overtly sexual on your night stand. This glass dildo falls into the lower price bracket at $25.
Riley is a silicone dildo that is slender for those who aren't ready for much girth but a curved, bulbous head that is perfect for G-spot stimulation. This one has a medium price range of $45.
Classic Aluminum, while more expensive than the other insertables mentioned here, is on the cheaper end of the price range when it comes to metal toys at $90. The smooth body with graduating curves is a great way to figure out how you feel about texture in dildo shape.

When it comes to a basic bullet vibrator, my favorite is the Tantus Original Bullet Vibe. It is a strong vibrator with very little noise and small enough to store anywhere secretly. It is also easy on the budget at $25
The Doc Johnson Janine vibrator is a larger vibe that can be used easily as an insertable as well as for clitoral stimulation. My girlfriend enjoys this vibrator a great deal and is her go-to for multiple orgasms. This vibe is also very low on the price scale at $11
The Nestlin Bunny is a great choice for a rabbit vibe in that it is can easily conform to your insertion needs as well as still holds true to the traditional rabbit look and strength. It is a little higher on the price range at $28.

Anal Toys
The Crystal premium small plug is a glass butt plug is tiny and light weight which is perfect for beginners. The cost of this starting point is also small at $17.
The Silicone X-10 anal beads are made with body-safe silicone and graduate from tiny beads to large 3 inch balls. The handle is also perfect for removal. The price range is also great at $12.

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Card Games: Fusxion Adult Playing Cards

Fusxion Adult Playing Cards feature "Hard Core Action" with "Gorgeous Girls" and "Filthy Sex."
My girlfriend, PunkyPup, brought these home from her new job at Castle adult novelty store. They were free and we thought it would be fun to play with them.
I have to say, the scenes one the cards are very distracting and would probably not be the best to pull out during a poker game that require concentration.
These are not your average Playboy playing cards with pin up girls. Each card features up-close and personal action with no pixilation, black bars, or any other form of censoring.
The cards show almost every form of raunchy sex with the exception of more obscure fetishes. There's anal, threesomes, lesbians, toy usage, even anal gaping and bukkake.

The only thing missing and, what I consider a low point to the cards, is male on male sex or transgender sex. However, maybe that is just me being greedy.
The other downside to the cards is that they are flimsy. A better card stock would have been preferred especially if you're handling these cards with sticky fingers.

In all I give the cards a 3 out of 5. Great scenes even if they don't offer a show for people of all sexualities or sexual interests and if they had been better made on nicer stock I would have given them a higher score.
My girlfriend said that 3 out of 5 was generous as she felt the flimsiness of the cards was a MAJOR downside to a point she didn't think that they would last longer than 1 night of...card games.

Sunday, March 17, 2013

Don't Judge My Friends Because of Me...

You ever hear of a person being judged by the people they associate with?
Well, how about judging people I associate with because of the fact that I have associated with them?

This happened to me recently.
I in the past have spoken to and scene'd with a girl who I will not name for the sake of keeping this post as nice as possible but will call KD. This girl is nice enough but I no longer associate with her because of some situations I have been put in because of her, her tendency to cling, and the fact that despite my being very clear that I have no intentions to have another woman in my life and only look to have BDSM scene relations has taken my interest as a Domme as being interests in a perspective partner.

I later had two dear friends of mine come to me and mention KD and hanging out with her. I didn't say anything about her in a negative way as I'm sure that many people could hang out with KD without becoming enmeshed in a situation like I was.
Unfortunately, KD began to turn her interests onto them and again become clingy and not listening to their explanations of non-interest. When they brought this to me and followed this up with the fact that the only reason they began hanging out with her was because she and I were friends - and gave me the compliment of being a great judge of character - I became worried.

So here is my DISCLAIMER
Just because I associate with, become friends with, or even scene with a person does not mean that I have proven that they are in any way cleared for play with other friends of mine
I take NO RESPONSIBILITY for people you become friends with.
Just because I hang with someone does not mean they are not a crazy bitch, a sexual predator, an unsafe Dom/me, or any other issues. I hang with them because they said HI and have yet to show any of these tendencies to me.

I also want to admit that I am actually not a great judge of character.
I have been in abusive relationships with friends and boyfriends.
I have a bad tendency to see the potential for good in people and stick with them even when they abuse our relationship to a point that my own mental/emotional/physical health was at risk.

Does this mean that I don't think you should meet my friends and hang with them? Not at all
Just please don't think that just because I have a drink and hang with a person means that you can assume they are automatically cleared and are a great person to be with/have sex with/scene with/or whatever.

Lady Phryxus

Saturday, March 16, 2013

NE4 Auction Event

This past week I had a BLAST with my best friend from KY, Aconita, coming up to visit.
I really wanted to show her a good time so first stop was the Northern Exposure 4 Auction party at The Raven in Anchorage.

Listening to Allie of AMC Productions try and figure out what each product on the auction bock was was one of the funniest pieces of entertainment I've seen in a LONG time. For those that were there - the suggestion that large d-ring cuffs were instruments of CBT...yes, best part of the evening, for sure.

We did bid in the auction, and won a Cupping Set
I was SOOOOOOO excited about this set! We broke it out as soon as we got home and started suctioning cups to almost every part of our bodies ^_^
The set can be used erotically on nipples and more or it can be used as an addition to acupressure.

Later in the week, Pup came home from her new job (at Castle Boutique, the local adult novelty store) with freebies!
This is a Fun Factory Share, which we have dubbed the Purple Monster

Icicles No. 33 the Teddy Bear Vibrator
She also brought home Ultimate Spanish Fly herbal supplements and Sweeten 69 secretion sweetener. Pup learned that taking the Spanish Fly supplements with a libido enhancing energy drink shot can make you very ill. So, you've been warned...

Review of the toys coming soon.