SlaveGirl Figure Boot Camp

I'm going to boot camp.
-giggles at the idea of me in BDUs-
I'm going to get fitter, healthier, cleaner.
I was inspired by ketpgirl aka Cindy and her group on FetLife the Slavegirl Figure Bootcamp.
I have had an interest in the raw food/vegan lifestyle for some time now and I could definitely lose some weight so I talked to Sir and I'm gonna do it!
I made the decision, invited a few local slavegirls to join me and off I go...
I even started a whole new blog to keep myself accountable on.
Check it out and watch as I shed the pounds, the clutter, the negativity and see the fresh new ^_^

Trying to figure out Me

So I am trying to figure out Me. Who I am. All the components that make up Me and how the hell do I work with all of them?

In no particular order, I am:

a submissive
an age-player
a wife
a daughter/daughter-in-law
a "sister"
a friend
a person who is into eco-friendly living
a person who is into eating organically
a person not happy with their weight but who has not done anything about it
a cupcake lover
a cat person
a furry
an anime and manga geek but not an otaku
a procrastinator
a horror movie fan
a body modification fan
a polyamorist
a bi-sexual
a student of herbalism
a student of spirituality


Goals for the coming year
Sort of my new years resolutions

I'd like to be healthier. Not necessarily to loose weight, though that would be nice, but to not have to worry about blood pressure or blood sugar or aches and pains that occur seemingly without reason. I don't want to think about the fact that most of the food I have been eating the last four months doesn't resemble anything natural.
I'd like to be further along in the steps it takes to have my own business including publishing my book.
I'd like to release my fear and get the body modifications I want.
I'd like to be happier with myself.

Flesh & Blood and mods I'd like

There's a point in the movie where one of the people interviewed said that if you seek pain and learn to deal with it, when pain comes to you unexpectedly, you can handle it better. I like to believe that.

The best part of the whole documentary was the in tandem suspension between Gomes and his partner. It was beautiful and romantic and just...wow.
When it cam to Ashly being in a relationship with the other two I'm glad it showed just how difficult a poly relationship can be. Its hard. The same with Steve and Beki not lasting. I'm glad they were open and honest about that sort of thing.

I would love to do some suspension. Daddy definately wants to try it from a spiritual stand point. I am now also thinking of an idea of an implant that looks like rope around my wrist - that would be HAWT!

Thank you Panda's Property for recommending I watch this.

Modify

Modify was a decent documentary about body modification.
I liked that those interviewed brought up the fact that a simple hair cut or a trip to the tanning bed is technically body modification. Its all part of a spectrum from hair cut to piercing to tattooing to implants to amputation.
Speaking of amputations, its the only thing that was mentioned repeatedly in the documentary that wasn't shown.
I recommend it for anyone who is interested in body modification in the point of view of anthropology or research.

Birthday Pictures

My Happy Birthday ^_^

My birthday started midnight December 19th and went to 4 pm December 21st. I was born December 20th 1988 at 4:07 pm (after 12 hours of labor my mother will always comment).

I started getting amazing birthday wishes immediately - thanks everyone ^_^

I also started it off right, in my opinion, with amazing birthday sex with Sir Phryxus. He was wonderful and forceful and combined my kink for D/s, age play and plushies until I almost passed out from orgasmic bliss.
He then held me all night, to my knowledge. I did wake up around 2 or 3 AM to find hims till holding me close and it made me smile and get all warm in all the right places.

When I woke up with Sir that morning I was still happy, despite him having to go to work. He wished me happy birthday, gave me a kiss and out the door he went.
I checked my FetLife and FaceBook to find even more birthday well wishing then tried to go back to sleep...in vain. So I took naughty piccies for Sir and sent them to him at work ^_^

After I woke up fully and had my first cup of coffee I opened the birthday presents my mom sent me. Her and I don't get along but they were still pretty good presents and I know she still loves me even after all the craziness of our relationship.
These 2 gifts along with the ceramic fairy from my in-laws were the only physical gifts I received and they were great.

I then made sure the overnight bag was packed. Clothes for Wednesday - check. 3 floggers - check. 1 crop - check. 2 clothespins - check. 250 ft of rope - check. Silk blindfold - check. Comfortable shoes - check.
All ready ^_^

Sir Phryxus came home early and we got ready quickly to go and meet my lil brother Synn who drove in from out of state just for me! We got to my friend Amy's house before Synn did so Sir started constructing my rope corset for the night there.
We then got Synn and grabbed pizza, which we ate in the parking lot of Fuzzy Holes.

In the club we hung out with my friends Revrin, club owner Anita, Sir's cousins "Jason" and "Nora" and, of course, Sir and Synn. And the dancers of course.
We ate pink champagne cupcakes, cake truffles, and drank absinthe and rum and sake and Crown Royale.
Sir had a good time with his slave, Synn, who he showed off well - especially the fact that Synn was wearing pretty Strawberry Shortcake panties ^_^

From the club we went to Revrin's house where Sir and Synn had a short scene with rope, floggers and crop. Sir dropped Synn into sub-space fairly quickly, worked him through it then went into nurturing-Sir mode after to bring him out of it gradually. Synn ended up on the couch snuggling a braided length of rope and half-consciously smoking a cigarette. I had a super compersion moment at that point watching them together. It was so cute.

Sir and Revrin also played guitars and sang for a bit, which is always a treat. The four of us also played Kings Hell House Rules - I love that game ^_^ I ended up pulling the Joker and made Sir my slave...not that I acted on that, I wouldn't know what to do with a slave if I had one.

We then crashed splendedly. Synn said he didn't move the whole night and slept like a rock - I wonder if the sub space of the bottle of Crown Royale did it lol
It was hard to see Synn leave today. I will miss him but Sir and I are gonna try and have him down in the next month or so, at least by Sir's b-day in March.

I had a great birthday (will have pics up soon as I get them all from Synn). Thank you everyone for the happy wishes and blessings ^_^ I feel very loved.

Psychopathia Sexualis

I was directed towards the movie Psychopathia Sexualis by chained_angel on FetLife when I asked for more movies to review (as I had already watched Story of O, Fetishes and Kink).

The movie shows scenes described in the study Psychopathia Sexualis that was made during the Victorian Era. I have to be careful about watching movies like these or even reading books with similar material as insane asylums are one of my biggest phobias and it gives me nightmares.

Some of the scenes squicked me out (like urinating in the mouth of a whore at the brothel and lobotomy) and, of course, I didn't agree with most of the conjectures made by the author of this study...but it was made by a man in an era where women did not have the rights they have today.
At one point it was stated of male submission that they were stripped of their manhood and made low, in the place of a woman. It made me consider who author Masoch surely was viewed by his peers as being...sick, having something truly wrong with him. Today, I am glad there is a better understanding of this at least in the psychological world even if it isn't accepted by the general public.

The costumes were lovely - gotta love a woman in a corset ^_^
And I must say I was inspired by the scene of the whore beating the customer with roses.

I think the doctor's words toward the homosexual man with a fetish for mustaches sums of the general view of men that day towards homosexuals: its not unnatural to have those feelings but to act on them was perversion - meaning its ok to be a homosexual but not to have sex with the same gender. I sadly don't think this view has changed much today in the general public.

The shadow puppet art was weird and very pretty at the same time. I love the use of it like horror porn in the story. Just goes to show that people haven't changed much over time.

I must say I cannot help but wonder what the doctor's sex life was like lol

Kink (TV Show)

Sir Phryxus and I spent all day in bed watching Kink Season 1 (and 2 episodes of Season 2)

I really liked the show and am a lil sad it didn't continue. it would have been nice to see a show similar to this for different areas of the US as well.

I especially liked interviewees Fanny and Fogg. Fanny seemed so level headed and Fogg was hilarious. I'm sure their dynamic regularly is a lot of fun.
Fogg says at the very first episode, while in the shower, how can he show the world the D/s lifestyle when all they see if the violence. Its not all about the violence, its about the relationship. I love how he says that.
I also liked Elain - her first appearance saying she wanted a little house in the country with cats, the tea kettle always on and the dungeon always full...how adorable.

I recommend checking this show out.

Season 2 sort of turned me off. I liked Candy Cane and Mistress Demonika. The suburban couple who were trying out the kinkster lifestyle sort of annoyed me. I don't like how the guy, Karel, talked about how Domanance wasn't fun at all, that the sub was the only one who seemed to have fun. I feel that if he isn't having fun as a Dom, he should try being a sub. There are plenty of sub couples and switch couples out there.
I do see why it would be a good idea to have someone in their shoes on the show to show other couples idea of how to experiment themselves.

Movie Night

Had an impromptu fetish movie night with Sir.
We watched Story of O (English dub) and Fetishes (a pro-domme documentary).

I have not read Story of O and had just heard about it after clicking on an ad on FetLife (the ad was for rings designed after Story of O). I decided to look and see if it was available to Watch Instantly on Netflix and it was. I was a little worried Sir wouldn't like it because it was a foreign film - I personally love foreign films and have brought Sir into this interest recently with Night Watch and the Millennium Trilogy.
The film was dubbed, which I was grateful for as I didn't feel like wearing my glasses and Sir would have probably lost interest with subtitles.
We enjoyed the film despite our lack of pleasure at the idea of Gorean-style BDSM and open sharing of partners. We liked the development of love, the submissive dominance, and the scenes of the girls beating each other (and the costumes at Madam...forget her name, the Dominatrix had a great Victorian-style dress).
We were happy with the movie at the end and I would really like to read the book.

Fetishes (1996) is a Documentary by Nick Bromfield.

First thing I would like to say is that Sir Phryxus and I were put off by the fact that Nick was not a fetishist, had never been in a BDSM scene and had the tone of talking about people who participated in the scene as if they were...freaks? abnormal? You get what I mean.
We feel that if you are going to do a study of a fetish, you had better participate.

I loved the women in this film and I was introduced to the idea of Professional Submission! Wow...what an idea...
I also loved that they included infantilism.
The Dommes were hot...just saying
The only thing I could not bear was the scene where a guy was completely degraded and was put to the task of cleaning a much used toilet...with his tongue. I started gagging and had to look away until Daddy told me it was safe to turn around.

I love movie night ^_^
Any movie suggestions out there? If its not on Netflix we can stream it elsewhere I'm sure.
We love well made documentaries, films based in the scene (especially horror and romance), and I like time period films like The Libertine with Johnny Depp and Quills with Kate Winslet.

14 Day Sex Challenge: Day 14

Its the end of the challenge and I certainly had fun. Thank you Athena of In Praise Of for the Challenge.

What is your fantasy?

Hmm what a broad question. I have lots and lots of fantasies.

My most recent fantasy involves me and my DaddyDom and lil sissy Honey.
I fantasize about Honey and I in frilly dresses in the bedroom. Sliding each other's panties off and feeling each others "kitties". Slowly start exploring each other and eventually one of us begins to kiss and lick the other's little pussy.
Daddy walks in on us and punishes us with sever spankings for being dirty then slowly starts loving on both of us until we fall into a wonderful threesome.

Sorry its not very descriptive. ^_^

14 Day Sex Challenge: Day 13

Favorite way to masturbate?

Watching my sweet lil sissy/girlfriend Honey masturbate ^_^
Usually using my purple wobbly dildo while watching

Tentacle and Doll Hentai

Here is a 2 part hentai. The first combines lesbianism and tentacles and the second part is about dolls. This was posted on a Dollification group on FetLife.

The Movie (sadly I don't know its name)

The first story made me think of the movie Dagon - if you've seen it, it makes me think of the mermaid who later turns out to have tentacle legs...I still thought she was super hot.

The second story, in my opinion, does a good job showing the sexuality and the creepiness of dolls.

14 Day Sex Challenge: Day 12

How do you view sex?

I'm not particularly sure how to answer this.
I view sex as a pleasurable way for people to bond.

I don't feel people should be married before they have sex but I don't believe in casual sex. Spiritually, I feel that when you have sex you open your base chakra up and connect with another person that way. This gives that other person a direct connection to you spiritually. I wouldn't want to open myself up to someone who would abuse that connection.
That's probably how I will explain it to my children when I have them.

FetLife Stranger Danger Response

I reported the person who sent me a sort of Pedophilic message on FetLife that I posted about on here previously and I finally received a message back and I wanted to share it:

DEC 12, 2011  |  02:06PM EST

Hi Nekomimi Loli,

Thank you for writing to us! We appreciate the heads up, and please know you can always block anyone you don't wish to communicate with - blocking will not only stop any private messages from him, but will also prevent him from being able to view or comment on anything in your profile.

We appreciate your letting us know!

14 Day Sex Challenge: Day 11

Sorry I missed yesterday, had a lot going on.

Day 11 is my Worst Sex Memory.

I have dealt with some abuse in my life but I decided not to describe those experiences on here.

My worst sex memory with Sir Phryxus was during a bad time with us. We were fighting about our ex, which I will call Kandy Kane. She was doing her best to drive a wedge between us so she could have Sir to herself. Even after we broke up she asked if she could just be friends with me and have sex with him, my response was pretty explicit and negative.

During this time we were fighting and still wanting to have sex and Sir ended up taking some aggression out on me after a fight. We were crying and yelling in the car on the way home and pulled off on the side of the road for sex (not uncommon for us mind you) and he came around to my side opened the door and attacked me. While it wasn't rape he was rough with me even when I told him he was hurting me.
It was a scary and sad time that hasn't repeated itself.

I received a lot of after care and love when he realized how much he had scared me so don't leave this post thinking my Sir is a total sadist lolz.

14 Day Sex Challenge: Day 10

Best Sex Memory

Wow...huh...let me think...

Ok, I don't want to write this like I condone drugs but this story...memory involves the recreational use of a certain pain killer and this pill has an effect on Sir Phryxus that enables him to last for a long time without ejaculation.
We were watching the movie Strangeland, which, for some reason, really turns me on. So, Sir played the movie and lit a few candles and we had sex.
We ended up trying a new position, that I think is called the Leg Glider and it allows Sir to hit all my spots either with penis/vagina penetration or with his fingers while he's penetrating me. This position doesn't really allow for me to curl up and hide holes or curves or anything and I like that I can't do that (and I do sometimes if I feel shy or whatever).
It was great and lasted for hours until I literally passed out.

Stranger Danger

So I belong to a few groups on FetLife that deal with AgePlay and I love it. The people I've met and spoken with have, for the most part, been wonderful.
However I have just had my first encounter with the dark side of fetish online - stranger danger. A woman contacted me on FetLife, wanting to talk about sexual AgePlay, which I am fine with. But...the more she talked about it the more she gave voice to the fact that she was open to and may have had sexual ageplay with a minor on more than 1 occasion and she may be related to them biologically.

I first wasn't sure that I was reading the posts right. I thought, there could be a chance she's talking about their Innerkid ages...then I realized she was talking about real minors and I immediately looked for a way to inform the FetLife admins.
I don't know what they have done with this information as of yet but the woman has yet to attempt to contact me again.

My advice to anyone else, if this happens to you
1) don't get discouraced about the community at large. AgePlay IS NOT ABOUT PEDOPHILIA! We do not condone sex with minors.
2) Report it to keep the community safe.

Thanks
LadyPhryxus

14 Day Sex Challenge: Day 9

Favorite Place to have Sex

On the recliner...I know not very imaginative but the recliner allows for Sir Phryxus to relax and for me to climb on and hit all the right spots in either cow girl or reverse cow girl position.

14 Day Sex Challenge: Day 8

The Things I'm dying to do in bed...

Have sex with Lolita clothes on (gotta get the clothes lol)
Suspension (Sir wants to be suspended with piercings)
Sex with Sir in a fur suit (he's not up for it sadly)
Implement Bad Dragon or Exotic Erotic toys

Lolita and Fetishes

Ok, so I'm gonna rant a little...warning for those that live rant free...

I Am a little tired of people going on and on about how Lolita is not and kink or a fetish or sexual at all and shouldn't be lumped in with other fetishes and how they don't go together and blah blah blah!

Yes, Lolita Fashion was not started as a fetish nor was it meant for that originally.

HOWEVER, If someone has a fetish for Lolita fashion that is OK Damnit! I don't see how its any different than Sissy Fetish or Bathing suit fetish or shoe fetish etc etc.
I have a Lolita Fashion fetish.
I combine this with my AgePlay and Furry fetishes.
I don't see how that hurts anyone. I don't see it hurting the Lolita community. The only time I post about Lolita Fashion Fetish is on here or on the Kinky Lolita group on FetLife.

How is this a problem?

14 Day Sex Challenge Day 7

The Things I'd never ever do in bed...

Water sports, scat play
Rape play
Medical Play
Clit torture
Pretty much anything on my Turn offs list

14 Day Sex Challenge: Day 6

Favorite Position

First I wanted to share this site as it has the different positions along with pics to explain ^_^

I have 2 fav positions right now

Reverse Cowgirl (its like having a clitoral, g-spot and anal orgasm all together.

The chart I posts calls the other position the Leg Glider and its a sure way for Daddy to give me multiple or on-going orgasms.

Here are 7 positions for threesomes (2 girls 1 guy) as well that I'd like to try

14 Day Sex Challenge: Day 2

Story/Age you lost your virginity

I was 19 years old and it was on January 17th, 2009 with Sir Phryxus ^_^

I had always noticed boys and liked boys but by the time I knew what sex was (long after I had figured out masturbation...and been told I would go to hell for it) I had already been told about all the nasty things you could catch having sex (STDs, AIDS, and what my mother called K.I.D. lol). So I didn't have sex for the same reason I didn't do drugs - I just knew the first time I did it something terrible would happen.

Now, before I go on, I want to say that I was raped before this happened. It was date-rape with a boy I had been in love with for a number of years. So when Sir and I had sex, I wasn't medically a virgin (then again I prolly wasn't medically a virgin since I was eleven and started using tampons) but I still count it as my first time.

Sir and I had fooled around a few times but I was terrified by the actual act of coitus. He understood and was patient (a strange concept as he was what his mother calls a Slutpuppy before he met me). I ended up going out of state for Christmas that year and missed him sooooo much. Before I returned I made the decision that I was going to do it. I called him and told him so and he asked if I was sure and I said I was.

When I returned on January 16th I was too exhausted to do more than shower and pass out so Sir Phryxus and I just held each other all night.
The next night I made sure I was clean, shaved, and wearing the prettiest underwear I owned (not much then because I had yet learned the art of lingerie shopping). He was so gently and took things slowly. It hurt (because I was tiny) and I panicked when he entered me so he held me then until I was ready and whispered how much he loved me and how wonderful I was and so on in my ear.

I wont say it was amazing...or that the second time was. The third time was AWESOME and has been since ^_^

14 Day Sex Challenge: Day 1

Ran into this amazing blogger through FetLife Blogger Group and saw her 14 Day Sex Challenge. Fun! Maybe you call can learn something about me with this.

Day 1
My Relationship with my current sex partner...

My Daddy Hubby Dom Best Friend Life Mate Twin Flame Partner in Crime...yea...Him ^_^
We've been married a lil over a year (Sept 21st is our anni) and together for 4 years (Nov 30th)
We have sex often and when we don't get to...we get a lil cranky and pouty and clingy...